Okay, I few days ago a guy that has had a huge crush on me (zack) was saying some rude things. I asked him to leave me alone til he calmed down but he got really upset. He then said, "That's it. I'm going to kill myself." Then he went offline and I heard from his cousin that zack had cut up his arm and so he called 911. Later, his cousin said that zack had passed out in the ambulance on the way to the hospital. I was crying for two days straight. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I caused someone to die. Plus, he's home now and he still says he loves me. I love him too, but not the same way. He's like a brother to me and I never want anything bad to happen to him. What do I do?
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Way out of hand...
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This is difficult, but important. We should try to avoid upsetting people if we can without losing our integrity; but integrity has to come first. Otherwise anyone can have power over us by threatening suicide.
Be as gentle with Zack as you can, but don't get trapped into a false relationship, even if you have to be firm. Tell him you wish you could love him him as he loves you, but you can't.
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That's exactly what I told him. I think he stopped toalking to me now though.
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I feel bad that someone was put into this situation. I guess if you love him as a brther act that way. Just don;t let him get the wrong signals.I hope everything turns out okay for you.
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Don't blame yourself if someone is mentally unstable. You did nothing wrong. You can support him as a friend, but he needs to realize that there is no future between you two (romatically).
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He needs help. Support him as a friend and try to get him to see someone.
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He keeps saying that he's better now. I keep telling him that I don't want to be his girlfriend, just a friend. If I anger him, he goes offline. Thank you everyone for your input on my situation. hugs