I don't know if there is something like this that has been addressed, but I'm new to this forum and there are a lot of posts, so I'll share my unfortunate experience. I'm 20 years old, and had a girlfriend for about 2 and a half years. I lost my virginity to her and never ever had a problem getting an erection. We broke up last summer ('04) and since then I have been with 2 girls, however...The first girl I was with I could not get an erection when we she began giving me a handjob, although I was horny. This happened for the first 2 or 3 times we engaged in sexual activity, and although I came, I was never "fully-erect". Not even hard enough to put my penis in her vagina. After about the third time I was able to get a hard erection and we had sex. It was very embarrasing but luckily she was patient and nice. A couple months later I was with a girl that I'd known for a long time and the same thing happened. We were only together one time, but the one time I could not get a hard erection, even though I wanted to desperately. I don't know if I was thinking about it too much and that is why I couldn't get it up. I have no idea what happened. I masturbate about every day and am hard as a rock when I do. I don't think that once a day is excessive, but I don't know. Does this happen because I am uncomfortable and nervous, or because I think about it too much? Or is becasuse I masturbate too much (once per day)? I have not tried to be with a girl since the second time this happened (November), because I'm afraid it will happen again. Does anybody know what I can do to solve this? I find it strange because when I had a girlfriend before I never had a problem, and could often even go for a second round with a full erection soon after I came the first time. I exercise regularly and eat well, if that matters. Oh, and lately (last 6 months) I've found myself waking up in the morning with a semi-hard or flaccid penis, while I used to wake up with a full erection. Thanks for any help.
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Couldn't get it up
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When you are stressed or worried or anxious often it can be difficult to get an erection, and then of course you start worrying more next time, and it keeps going. The key is patience and not expecting too much, and things get better, as you discovered with the first girl you had the problem with.However, the fact that morning erections aren't as strong suggests there might be a physical problem as well. It would be a good idea to see a doctor and get checked up, mentioning this problem with morning erections and performance difficulty. In particular, you should get checked for diabetes, as this is often the first sign of it.
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Well, I think you must visit a doctor, too. Despite the fact that you can check your penis , you'll feel more secure and self-confident, too! Finally, no one should be ashame of discussing these personal matters to a doctor
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I'd say about about nerves and performance anxiety. Having a g/f you lost your virginity to made you very comfortable with sex...with her. When doing so with new girls there was a bit of nervous excitemetn and some concern about things working right..especially since the first couple of times things werent quite the way you'd like them to be. Anytime there is a "problem" we tend to worry and get all freaked about it and that makes it so much worse. You know it works as it does for you and has in the past....just don't give it another thought, just enjoy the moment! Oh and by the way, once a day isn't bad at all, nor is it too much masturbation.
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Thanks. I'll set up an appointment with my doc. My dad has diabetes, so I will definitely enquire about that.