well me and my gf have been going out for a year (she is my first as am i), and we have been taking things really slow, we didn't kiss until three months after going out and didn't french until like a month before our year anniversary.ok so here is my question: so i am really affectionate towards her, and i am the one to "initiate" almost every kiss, but that is prolly because she doesn't like PDA, but i don't feel that she is affectionate enough to me, and i have actually considered breaking up with her because of this, so is there anyway to get her to be more affectionate to me?
I'd say talk to her about it... ask her why you have to start everything and ask her if she still cares about you..
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oh, i know or at least i thought i did, that cares about me, i kinda want to talk to her about it but we are both pretty shy about stuff like this and never really talk about it,
i think the reason i have to start everything is because of her being afraid to show PDA, i dunno
If the relationship is going to last, it's essential that you're able to talk about (not only) this and other issues. Otherwise one person will always be silently putting up with issues that could probably be solved with a little compromising.
Just have a talk to her, it doesn't have to be stern or serious, but put it in a way that you love to receive affection from her, that it makes you feel good, it makes you feel loved, and you'd like to receive more. Mention sometime that you adore her and especially her affection, and ...
You really do need to be able to talk though. If you continue to sweep problems under the carpet, you'll end up with a big lump! You'll find that most can be sorted out if you're both comfortable with a bit of a talk.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
I do understand where You are coming from. The "first" relationship is really hard because it IS new.
But really, You considering whether You should break up with her or not.. Well I understand that You are affectionate, but do You love her? I mean, love, in the truest meaning of the word?
You seem to be "ready" to break off with her because She isnt as affectionate with You. Its kinda hard to think about, but I do think that You should talk about it with Her. Its not about it being "uncomfortable" discussion. It should not be, because it IS important. And it concerns both You and Her.
Trust me, if Youll break up with Her just because of Your instincts, You might regret it, and it may hurt more than it should.
Also, if You could tell me Your age it might help? For a first relationship, Id think something like high-school most likely?
Cause high-school and those first relationships rarely really last. They are special, especially if Love is involved, and will be never forgotten, but they are full of so much question and doubt.
The easiest thing You really can do is go to Her and discuss this with Her. Because if You cant be open like that with Her, then it may really not be the relationship Youd feel comfortable in, in the future.
Even if the other person is shy, these things dont matter. In a romantic relationship shyness shouldnt be a limiting factor. Such a relationship really needs the two of You, together, be open for each other.
But yes, go and talk to Her its the best thing You can do. And its the only right way to get answers.