Wow im in a bit of a predicament....
Im going out with this girl, shes 15, im 18. Before you yell at me and say "15!? THATS TOO YOUNG!", shut up. its not like what you think. anyway.
I love this girl, i truely do. I actualy never believed in love before meeting her. It was love at first sight...literally.
So after MONTHS of talking and getting to know each other and etx.., we finally started going out. It's been, what, 3 weeks so far?
Ok my question is this: When do you people think is the right time to tell your g/f (b/f for you girls) that you love them? I'm SOOOOOO in love with this girl but i dont wanna tell her cuz im afraid i might scare her. I need some advice!!! thanks in advance!
So in love...
Wow im in a bit of a predicament....
well how love have you known her.....MONTHS isnt a good explanation
It really does depend. She is young so she may receive it differently, she may not consider it a big deal or she may.
Remember she is 15, odds are it won't work... I know that is a shitty response, but at 15 she is going to want to test out other guys as well... Almost a fact of life.
My current gf is younger then me, and we met when she was 15 as well... I was told the same thing im telling you, odds are she will want to leave you. There are odds that she'll do stupid stuff while with you.
But if you really do love her, tell her. There is never a reason to be scared to tell your feelings. If she has a problem with you because you do love her, wouldn't you rather know now rather then later when it will hurt more?
By the way, my gf and i are still going out... We are still going strong, so best of luck.
SaintAvalon - I no longer fear death, let death fear me.
For one what i meant to say in my first post was how LONG have you known her. And i agree with SaintAvalon that age makes a huge difference. But i am still curious how LONG you've known her
Ok, the first thing, age. Age isnt a factor, not really.
I have a friend who is soon 21 and dates also 15 year old. Yes, I know, I find it weird, but this is an emotional relationship and not phsyical. I do consider that she is not fully developed yet mentally nor physically, but Im not going to say things out loud because its them, their relationship and commitment.
Now the second thing. Love.
Its kinda different. Being in love, and Loving Her. The first thing is crush of course, then comes being in love with someone. However, this is a fragile state.
You WILL scare Her if You tell Her You are in love. She is too young, especially mentally. She doesnt know yet what Love is. I mean, she knows what it is but She hasnt been there. Just like You obviously. You will scare Her.
I also have to agree with SaintAvalon here that it wont last. Im sorry to tell You this, but it really wil not. Not in the end. It may last for years even, and You may find Love there, but odds are so against You.
Im not trying to discourage You though. You are obviously in love with Her and You should not "lay down" or anything. Its not only You who will get a great experience out of this, She will too. But at this very moment I think You might scare Her if You tell Her that You are in love.
Of course You didnt tell us that much about Her. About Your relationship thats going on. Its hard to analyze Her at such an age. Ive seen 15'year old with my friend and they are still a kid in mind. Trying to analyze such a persons actions is one of the reasons why puberty is such a hard topic (and itneresting one) for anyone slightly interested in psychology.
You ask when is the time? Well, the right time is when You feel is the right time. Id write You long about things You could udnerstand it from, or things that could help You, but You wont notice them anyway. No one does, not when they are going through this for the first time themselves. Just let thigns flow, and tell Her when You feel its the right time.
It would be a good thing though to tell us as well about this relationship of Yours. From Your "love-puzzled" post, Im not really seeing anything from "Her" perspective (in Your opinion).
Just shine some light here, how long is it that You actually know Her, and what is this relationship of Yours like anyway?
Crap. Damnit. I need sleep NOW! Gosh, Ive got lectures, tomorrow, in less than five hours...
Hey, I kinda understand what your saying caliguy, I'm 18 and I like this girl that's about 15 so your not alone. Just tell her sometime online or something that you have deep feelings for her, I'm nervous myself to tell this girl I like her but my goal this summer is to get over that nervousness. Trust me go for it.