There's this girl I really like and we see eachother almost every day at school. Anyway, basically I didn't have the guts to ask her out earlier and she ended up going out on a few dates with some guy.
I felt like an idiot for waiting but ended up asking her out anyway since they had gone on like 2 dates. I felt weird about it and told her so. She said just because they went out doesn't mean they're an item and asked me how long I'd been wanting to ask her out. Anyway, we ended up talking for over an hour after I asked her out. And I mean we've always just been able to talk and talk.
But here's where I start not to get it. We arranged to go out on the weekend but the whole week she became very cold and barely said anything to me. When we went out to eat and it was okay but still this same feeling.
So I walk her home and when we get to her place she tells me not to get my hopes up. So I said point blank "should I just forget it then?" and she said yes because she is still going through some things.
The thing is why bother saying yes in the first place? I felt like she likes me but then it doesn't seem like it. This is rougher still because it was my first date in two years, I see her every day, and I like her a LOT (and I don't like anyone a lot).
Can anyone please explain what all this means?
The way I've looked at this is that the bottom line is she doesn't want to see me and I need to start looking for someone else. But I barely ever meet someone I like this much and the idea of looking again is like sailing into the ocean and not knowing when you'll see land again.
Someone just tell me there's no hope with this girl.
Another Confusing Situation...
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Well if she said no... then that means no. Sorry but I don't see any future with this girl
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Well from what it sounds.....shes a very confused girl. I think she may like you but wont admit it to herself. So in the heat of the moment she said yes about the date because deep down she wanted that. Then she got confused over that week and didnt tlak to u because she didnt know what to think. So you guys went out and she was still stuck on the fact that for some reason she cant like you. Hense the dont get your hopes up. And when she says shes goin through some things. Ive found that usually means that its the best line a girl could come up with to say......i dont know what to feel about you. I say dont wait around for her, date around, but dont stop talking to her. Go out with her as "friends" if thats what you have to do and just work your charm. Hopefully one day shell snap out of it and realize what shes missin out on
Thanks. I think I'm gonna try dating around a bit. My judgement has been cloudy since this happened and it was good to get some impartial opinions about it.
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I do the same thing, even though I may not like a guy A LOT, if I'm a little bit interested, I say yes to going on a date to give him a chance. The date will tell me if it's worth persuing. It doesn't take long to decide. Things between you and her just didn't work, it wasn't going anywhere for her. So she didn't want to lead you on by being warm and affectionate.
People come, people go.