Hi ok so my name is Abi and I am 14 years old so im just looking for some advice from some of you older ppl who know better. OK in my school I am really close with two of my friends. One of them is really small and not really fully developed yet amd the othe is but shes alot bigger. I am in between since I'm slim but growing in places that unfortunately ppl notice. So anyway my older friend is very um how do you say um....vain..ya thats it. And shes always talking about these boys always saying pervotic things to her (is that a word??). And she complains about but shes always wearing slutty stuff. But my friend and I think she is delusional because last time she yelled at this construction work who didnt even look at her. But what I'm trying to say is she kinda makes me feel like I am ugly or not pretty and she especially makes my friend feel that way. I feel very insecure now a days and I have lost all confidence in myself. I don't know what to do or what to tell her. PLEEASE HELP ME!!
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SOME FRIENDS DONT GET IT!!
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oh yeah and also (she doesnt say this to me but my other friend) we all like to draw me especially and we kinds emphasize on the boobs bad habit. and when i show them the designs she always says to me about my friend "she'll never have boobs that big" or "ya she wishes" i mean is it my fault. if so i didnt mean to and how can i help my friend feel better
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Sounds like this older friend of yours has some self-image issues... some girls act like their all that when people say their hot or whatever... they think their god's gift on earth and everyone should follow them..Sry jsut rambling... I dunno what to do or say about it... I just know some girls like that too
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Ok now she doesn't sound like a good friend at all...I'd just tell her that she needs to chill and that just because not everyone's as big as her doesn't mean anything... she ain't all that just because she has big boobs...If she can't accept that then it's her problem, and you two should just forget about her
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yeah but heres the surprise.. her boobs arent even that big she just thinks they are because of the shirsts she wears.. mines are almost her size
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Well then you really need to break it down for her... "look, hoe, your boobs aren't that big so stop acting like your all that, me and my friend don't like it when you talk like "insert_comment_here" so please stop it"
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Hi Abi! Dont worry about your friend. Sounds like she is just seeking attention, but in the wrong way. Its rather sad when females feel they must exploit their body in such a way to bring attention to themselves. Does she reliaze how tacky all that 'slutty' clothing is? Have you tryed talking with her about it? Explain to her how it hurts your feelings when she 'insults' you and your other friend. The more mature (as in not dressing slutty and such) girls always get the better guys anyways! Just be you!
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thank you for your advice and i will try to tell her hopefully she wont take it the wrong way
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She's immature! she doesn't know what she's talking about, trust me. I had the same kind of friend when I was around that age, and she made me feel like shit. She wore slutty things and was permiscuous, and I really had no respect for her. Don't let your so-called friend get to you. Chances are, you're 10 times smarter than she is, and she probably has really low self esteem. Someone who has a good body image doesn't need to wear slutty clothes and make up stories to feel good (which would be you). Looking back on my ex-best friend, I know she was jealous of me. I see her now from time to time and she works at walmart, has had 2 or 3 abortions, is overweight, and really has no friends. I like to think of it as karma. So tell this girl "hey, if you expect to keep your friends, you need to stop saying mean shit to the both of us because we're tired of it. Just because you don't respect yourself doesn't mean you have to disrespect the two girls who are always here for you. Get a clue!"
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Well, just ignore those comments, your friend really is to into looks. If you really don't care about what she is saying don't listen. Is she making fun of people because of their looks though? Thats just shallow. If you don't like what she is saying just don't hang around with her anymore. That's basically all the advice I can give you. Im your age and thats the kind of thing that I do.
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i had a friend like that when i was your age.. made me feel ugly.. put me down..well.. definetly not friends any more.. Shes a crack ho with a baby! I feel really sorry for her.. and for her daughter.. Dont let her bring you down because you are so much better than that!
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I dotn like slutty girls, they often act like they are better than you becuase they wear brands and whathaveyou... I think a lot of guys put personality over looks quite easily. And a lot of nasty guys get WAY to much attention from slutty girls. Im amazed by these arrogant brand label wearing sods who treat the girls sucking up to them like dirt and the girls just carry right on like they have a right to treat them badly.
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I've noticed in the early years of high school the guys go for looks and such.. they want a pretty gf.. but during the last year and college.. Its more than that..
They do a lot of maturing in those years.. so wait out! lol.. i didnt have my first good bf till the summer before grade 12.. the rest were just stuppppid!