Ok, I'm really obsessed with Japan. I mean really obsessed anybody who knows me knows how obsessed. So anyway, I have alot of Japanese friends, I'm learing the language and writing, and I plan to go around the age of 16 :grin:. But I have met this really nice Japanese guy and we have really gotten to know each other. We've gotten so comfortable that he wants to come to America to visit my family and I. And then afterwards bring me to Japan to meet his family and friends. Me, of course, am super-siked. This seems like a dream come tru for me. The only thing I'm nervous about is how everyone will take this and how in the world we will be able to translate for them. He seems pretty confident about it and my dad is already up the wall and clawing at it like a mad cat and my mom is giving me the whole sex talk... again. So everyone is going crazy and my friends are certainly not helping with their warnings about how crazy and dangerous Japanese people are. So I'm really confused and I'm getting second doubts. What to do.. what to do :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:
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Foreign boyfriend
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Do whatever you think is the best for you, and your friend coming from japan
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It does sound kinda freaky.. You don't know this boy! Why would you trust yourself to be alone with him in different country?
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Thats a bad idea. You dont know this guy other then what he types. I can type anything. Did you know Im a rock star? 6'3 and I can bench 350. Am I a rock star? Hardly... 6'3 and bench 350? I wish. For your own safety, I would say avoid that situation. Meet someone a little closer to home.
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you mean.. youre not a rockstar?! :confused:
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yeah but I've seen his pic and he's seen mine. We've talked for about 3 years or more and I REALLY REALLY like Japan alot. But you guys are right I should be more cautious about this. So what should I tell him if I decide I don't want to go? Can't I bring a friend instead?
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Anyone can show a pic, doesn't mean it's theirs. Your parents are letting you go to Japan at 14, 16 or whatever? You're a child...traveling to a foreign country alone or with a friend is dangerous.
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i would personally advise you against going.. if you like japan so much.. why don't you and a bunch of girlfriends plan to go after you graduate highschool.. me and my friends planned to go to Quebec when we graduated.. but.. alot of stuff happened since now and then..
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oh thats a good idea I'll give it a shot
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Ok, not everyone who loves/like somone over the net is a paedophile, ffs. I love my g/f the other side of the globe very much, and we have exchanged several photos blah di blah blah. The best idea is probably set up a webcam to see what this guys like or whatever to see if he really is who he says he is.
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I totally agree, not everyone online is a paedophile, but you have to be sure they arn't. I am marrying the person I met online so I totally agree you can have feelings for people online. I also agree conversations online with webcams are a good idea, so you know who you are talking to as in, age and if they are who they say they are......but you still can't be a 100% sure that what they say is what they mean, webcam or not.
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I wouldn't go across seas to meet someone you really don't know. He could be completely diffrent from who he says he is, but then again he could be exactly what he says he is, but do you really want to take that chance and get hurt? I don't think so I'd wait till you were a little older before you travel to a diffrent country and I suggest that you take either family or friends with you when you go. The world isn't as safe as it used to be, you can never be to careful now days. Good luck ^_^
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In reply to:I still love this guy, but the long distance is hurting me. I wish people would stop being so annoying about how stupid internet relationships are... there is a right way and a wrong way to go about it, just like anything - that's why I love hearing Angel's story. thanks hon, sometimes I think people think we are weird, meeting how we did LOL But hey i have never been conventional about anything we actually met in a chat room on AOL - messengers weren't a big thing then - nealry 9 years ago, and luckily he was only 400 or so miles away, so he came up for a visit and never left..........we had my youngest son soon after and are getting married in august.There definitely is a way of doing things, and I feel that people have to be a hell of a lot more careful now than when i first came online...........a lot of people don't understand how you can have feelings for someone through a keyboard, but it happens, a lot more than people think.
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whew.. k, finally i joined this community. this post really made me make my mind up quick.from what i understand, you met this japanese guy online, and 'known' him for almost 3 years. (...'known', because it's true that he could be lying.)i know it's not helpful to make generalisations, but japanese people of this generation are usually ok. nice, smart enough not to muck up their lives (the... culture doesn't let them.), and, well, pretty open to the idea of sex.going to japan can be a bit dangerous, but if he's to come to where you are first, then it might be ok to see what he's like. if he's wierd, you'll still be ok with the protection of your family and country (where you can dial 911 and communicate, if things get extreme.)japanese people aren't that crazy, though some of their... trends can seem a bit extreme to most people. it shouldn't cause any problems, though. it'll just be like a difference in culture.this is my advice, don't worry too much about it - seeing that you have a chance to see what he's really like. (it may not sound very convincing, but i know a lot about japan - though i'm not japanese myself...)