14 and lonely

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okay im a guy. I have a few good freinds and a okay amount of people i talk to everyday at school. everyone at school either looks at me as a normal preson, a queit person who they would just save making another freind so they talk to someone more talkitive, a loser, or an ok guy who's not into all the cool stuff and they respect me for that. but im am interested in cool stuff but no one's ever really seen that side of me. and i don't know what people whould think if i started acting different. but i want to be a cool person and have lots of freinds what do i do

Dude, I just went through this exact same phase, and trust me, I know you'll hear this all the time, but it's true. JUST BE YOURSELF! I was pretty iffy when I first thought about it, but I'm into it now, and trust me. It's awesome! I'm 13, so don't think I'm an adult giving you a lecture. I'm just like you.

yes.......did that long ago........hurt me........bad....................................................................................................................................................................... . .. .

How did being yourself hurt you bad, someone young?

Sounds to me like you have Social Anxiety Disorder. That's what I had. But I can't be sure. You should ask a doctor, which I am not.

well, lets say i had some weird freinds.......acted like them.....(not saying hurt me physically or anything, but people don;t forget easily) but im slowly recovering from the "Everyone thinks you a gay fag disease" cuz now alot of people actually want to be my freind you see i'm very paranoid about everybody. everytime i hear someone one whisper i think they're talking about me, and people writing notes in class even bothers me, and they'll truly never tALK ABOUT ME and i think im really ugly and i think everyone even my best freinds thinks im crazy, none of its probably true, but its what happens when your lonely...you get paranoid, and no i don;t got a disease, and im typing too dramatically, oh what im a saying i just get in a habit of making my life more dramatic than it is. just ignore everything i said. it feels good to get that out!

I used to think that if people behind me were laughing, they were laughing at me

k

I still think that people laughing are laughing about me. I've got myself worked up quite often over things like that. I keep trying to discreetly check that my fly isn't open or something like that.That's an interesting idea that it's because of being alone. I suppose if you're alone you don't feel acceptance from other people: you don't realise that most people have no problems with most other people, even though they are very different.

k

"well, lets say i had some weird freinds.......acted like them...."You're supposed to act like yourself, not like your friends.

kinda, that was myself cuz i liked acteing like them, didn't know then that it looked stupid

once u have ur own web of friends, no matter who they r, u will higher ur confidence level. im 17 and i still have a similar probs. they say ur probs will be fixed by the time u get to high skool. if not that, then college. ive seen ppl change like crazy over the years.

i went through thisphase just this year. Ive always had friends, but no one that really shared my interests. Then I started karate, made some firends. Then at school, i walked right up to all the "cool" ppl in my school, and htey all knew me, and i ujust start talking to them, and i found some ppl that were interested in hockey, in same kind of music etc.. The key is to find somethng your interested in, then ask around other ppl and find ppl that share that interest [art, music, sport etc] and there should be no problems making friends.

okay here's my interests (that are not cool)Music: Sweetbox (a J-pop band that sings english) (they have more of a sad rock theme than pop), and the band called Dope (nu-metal or metal?)Sports: I hate all of them! exept archery and skateboardingpersonality: sarcastic, quiet, i think im smarter than everyone else but i don't act like it!

In reply to: , i think im smarter than everyone else but i don't act like it! cocky, condescending? why aren't those on your list?

dope aint that bad, they have a good remix of spin me right round baby. Im 15 and im an athlete and one of the "cool" kids i guess if thats what you want to call it. But dont try to act diffrent cuz you want to hang out with ppl that you think are better or somthing, just be urself and find friends that you share the same intrests i guess.

I don;t want to hang out with people who are better but i want ot hang out with people like me but they don't like me