Ok, here is the deal... my girlfriend is really fucking with my head and I am totally confused. I don't think she is doing it on purpose, it just seems to work out that way. Why I am confused about this is I don't know if it's just me overanalyzing shit and overreacting.We have been together for about 9 and a half months now. We seem to be doing well, but I can't tell if she is getting tired of me, or if it's just in my head. Lately she has been talking and hanging out with her ex boyfriend, as friends. I trust her enough, but it still pisses me off a bit, and understandably so if you ask me. It seems to me that she puts more effort into seeing him than she does into seeing me. Not that she sees him more, not even close... but if I don't make the effort to ask to hang out, and to get to her house, I don't know if I would ever see her. She drove to myh house today (about 45 minute drive) which surprised me because she doesn't like driving. I haven't really seen her much at all this week, a few hours tuesday, but that was it. Thursday she hung with her ex... today, she hung with me for only like 4 hours, then acted like she had to get him... on the way home she 'randomly' decided to go to his house and stayed there for like 5 hours. Naturally I was really upset about this because it made me feel like 1) she bailed on me to hang with him 2) she enjoys hanging with him more because she spent more time with him than me 3) she would never just randomly show up at my house, why his? To add to this, she would never consider coming to my house after work during the week, but she has gone to his house after work multiple times...Am I just looking to far into this? Yes, I am the jealous type, but I don't worry too much about her hanging with him, just more the fact that she puts more effort into other people than with me. When we ARE together, she is amazing, always cuddling up with me, but when we aren't together I just feel like im just some other dude.When she got home tonite I was ready to just go off about this, I had everything planned out what I was going to say... but I decided that doing that would accomplish nothing but make me look like a jealous ass and probably just piss her off so I told her "I have this whole rant that has been building all day, but it would do nothing to help... so I am just going to drop it" and then asked if she had fun... was that the right thing to do or did I puss out? We are hanging out tomorrow, which is weird, 2 days in a row... I usually only see her every 3 or so days... Goddamn I am so confused. I love her and don't want to lose her, I really can't think of life without her, but at the same time, I feel it would be easier to just end it... but I don't what I would do without her. Why must love be such a bitch?
Yet another confusing situation...
If, looked at objectlively, she is spending as much time or more with her ex-bf as with you, I agree, this doesn't look like she has moved on from him to you.
no, she doesn't spend nearly as much time with him, but she makes more effort to go see him than she does to see me, that's what gets me. As in, she will drive to see him, but won't drive to see me (today was the first time she has driven to my house). I see her more, but I have to make the effort to get there and to schedule it. She is just friends with him, he is really the only other friend she has, so im not worried about that. If she was cheating on me, she wouldn't be with me, I know that for sure.