Well, it's been a looong time since I've posted here but now I'm in an odd situation.First, personal info: I'm a soon to be junior in college. I'm more of a play hard kinda guy and have been known to have my moments with the ladies. Kind of a lot of moments. This has influenced my reputation some, and although I'm not at a small school I know a lot of people. Example: one of the girls I'll describe mentioned me at her sorority and found that nearly half of her sisters knew me or had heard stories about me. Despite my reputation as a ladies man I'm a loyal, supportive, and dedicated boyfriend when I'm with a girl. I just have a problem finding girls that I'm particularly interested in and that aren't scared away by their girlfriends (often embellished) stories. However, I did find two, and now about them:Girl A: She went to high school with my roommate but I met her during football season when she randomly ended up sitting behind me and my friends. This would normally be a problem as I am known as...Well, simply speaking, during football season, I'm up at 8 pounding rum and cokes and tequila shots. By the time the team hits the field I'm usually "that guy". You know the one that's completely too loud, rowdy, and drunk. It's amazing she tolerated me at all, but after a few months of seeing my drunken exploits we actually started hanging out, watching movies, t.v., getting coffee...simple things, but all sober. I really wasn't sure if she liked me though, and I found out after about 6 weeks that she had a boyfriend at a different school; a boyfriend she'd been with for nearly four years. However, I didn't find out until a couple weeks after she had broken up with him. So, after finding that out, not wanting to be the rebound guy, I tried to find something that really screamed that she wanted to be with me. A smoking gun, if you will. At the same time her friends were telling her to stay away from me and stop hooking up (we hadn't and still haven't hooked up). I had a little drama where my best friend kissed me and I wasn't sure what was going to happen, so I shared that with her, because I've always felt that if I should be able to trust a girl as a friend before anything else and she still hadn't given me anything concrete. Nothing happened though and me and Girl A continued with our psuedo dates though I think she felt like I didn't like her because I shared everything that happened with my friend. I went home to meet her mom over spring break and that went really well. I love her family and her mom really liked me. A few days later though she told me that her and her ex were talking about getting back together. That same day I was recovering from a wicked hangover that I got from a party where I met:Girl B: She's from a town close to my own. We share a lot of the same interests and she's bright and fun to hang out with. I actually met her through a girl I was hooking up with at the beginning of last year, they're best friends. So, me and Girl B hung out some, but it was fairly rare because she was so busy. Since winter term ended though she's done the little things that I normally take for being clear signs that she likes me: call me at random times just to talk, ask me to walk her home from the bar/parties, kiss me. However, she always seems to avoid it when I want to hang out. We only hang out at her whim, and that's still fairly rare, despite only being a 5 minute walk away. Her friend warned me that she's been known to play with guys and break their hearts. I'm not worried about that, but she seems hellbent on keeping her distance and not committing, and she won't tell me anything about how she feels, where she thinks this is going, etc. It's frustrating to say the least and I can't get a read on her other than she likes cuddling up and kissing me.Since Girl A went home for the summer we both admitted that we liked each other, liked being in past tense is key. I'm not sure if she still has feelings for me or not, but I know that everything with her ex fell through. I have two and a half months till she's back and I don't want to even try to start anything before that due to bad experiences with long distance relationships. Girl B is still flighty and I'm not sure what she wants. I guess I want to know three things: - If Girl B shows me something that I really like and decides she wants to commit should I just forget about Girl A and go for it?- Should I forget about Girl B and try something despite my past with long distance relationships and the possiblity that I could completely F* my friendship with Girl A (who has become one of my very best friends)?- ANY clue what's up with Girl B?? Why does she act in such a contradictory manner?Sorry this is so long, and thanks in advance for any advice.-
Three Ring Circus (warning: long)
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If Girl B shows interest in actually committing and you like her, sure, why not?
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If Girl A has become one of your best friends... it can be weird to date your best friend and usually doesn't work out.
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Good question. Ask her.
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Well, one reason not to: If girl A still has feelings for me then our friendship could become very strained. She does have a little jealous streak in her.another thought: I really do care about Girl A and if she said the word I would be with her without reservation. On the other hand Girl B, while very likeable, sweet, and charming still has questions that I'm not sure about and could effect how we get along.Another option: Forget all the nonsense and play the college scene, live it up with all the girls I can.As far as mixing friendship and relationships, while it can be a bad idea I think it's often the best idea as well. i.e. How often do you hear married couples say that they're spouse is their best friend? My experience, quite often.
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Hot dog is it good to see you!I'd love to answer these questions for you too hun but I'm kind of the last person to be handing out "dating" advice at the moment. But I wish you luck with this. I'm sure whatever you decide will work out for the best.
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Nice to see you too. You've always been one of my favorite posters and I'm glad you're still here. Thanks for the luck!
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I wasn't your favorite until I told off old QotSA456. lol