I once heard that alcohol induces homosexual behaviour in men. This was my aunt specking about her ex-husband. This would suggest that men would by nature, only have a moral objection to homosexuality. Even from early childhood, within the family and then later going to school, I was maid to frantically fear ever making such I choice in life. That like with all those other so-called 'chooses' that seems to conflict with the general opinion of society, that I would be severally punished.Homosexuality has been my first encounter where my body and my mind told me one thing and society, the complete opposite. I though detected this form of human behaviour all around and though I initially refrained from it, I clearly sensed that it was more common than what I was ever allowed to believe. There has been very few things that scared me as much as been tagged as a 'faggot' and I could see how this fear not only applied to me, but was expressed by the majority of people, I have know throughout my life.Homosexuality has been the first of those things in life, where I became aware that what society depicts as human nature, is sometimes completely the opposite from the truth. That society are dictating to man what he should be like, in contrast to what he actually is like. It is suggested that man is naturally and exclusively inclined to heterosexual behaviour. It would rather seem that heterosexual behaviour might not be the first logical choice. That it would be fare easier to be homosexual than heterosexual. That heterosexuality involves a long term commitment and a whole string of other responsibilities that makes it fare more of a conscious decision than homosexuality ever could be.I am not suggesting that humans are more inclined to homosexual behaviour, but rather that it seems that people of the same sex have more in common, form friendships fare easier, enjoys one anther's company far more and might even be sexually more compatible. Of cause when looking at human sexuality there are obviously fare greater concerns than any of the above.I would listen to how gays would always try and find a homosexual in everybody else and that would tick me off. But then also how gays would at the same time, see themselves as being different from other males and that would also make me feel unease. I tried for years to find a single definition for what would cause someone to be gay and though I have formulated some, like with any rule there is always the exception. Sexual behaviour and what excites people is as diverse as our individual circumstances and though in some cases there might be a logical explanation, for the most part it might be as insignificant as what vegetables you like to eat and witch ones you don not.It would seem to me that to be homosexual does not require anything additional or anything less than what would be required to be heterosexual. As a child trying to define normality I wrote; that it is the strive to be normal, that would makes our behaviour normal. I always sensed that society perceived homosexuals as people that does not try to be heterosexual. That homosexuals somehow made a conscious decision about being gay, which I think most gays would agree with. But then straights would never admit to have ever made such a similar choice, as to their own sexual preferences. Then again, not making choices and merely following the natural flow of events or what is perceived as normal, would be indicative of all normal people.In trying to explain hetero- and homosexual behaviour, I went back to the animal world to find this parallel. I saw that all the males from all the species, would vigorously compete for the right to procreate. I would watch young male antelope play-fighting, and adults that would have battles to the death. It seemed to make sense. But then I also noticed, that it was not really indicative of forming large societies. That these groups consisted of a single dominant male, with his harem of females and their young. That there was constant infighting and conflict and that it was not the correct representation of human society.I then looked at baboon troops and though there groups consisted out of more adult males, it was still disruptive, violent and limited in size. But there was a sense of community amongst the males and they would form alliances, would groom one another, go hunting together and stand together to defend their territory. It is suggested, that the size of the groups that primates would form, can be accurately predicted by anthropologists, by simply measuring the brain cavity of their sculls. It seems that we developed large brains to be able to form large groups. Males by nature are competitive and would fiercely compete for the right to procreate, and this behaviour would be inline with the natural selection theory. This then seems to be the one crucial aspect within human society - the ability that human males has developed, to be sexually tolerant of one another...
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Am I gay?
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In reply to: It is suggested that man is naturally and exclusively inclined to heterosexual behaviour. We are genetically made to have babies, so for most men and women they are drawn to the opposite sex for just that reason. NOT - before people start moaning at me - that homosexuality isn't 'natural' or there is anything wrong with it! In reply to:That it would be fare easier to be homosexual than heterosexual. That heterosexuality involves a long term commitment and a whole string of other responsibilities that makes it fare more of a conscious decision than homosexuality ever could be. Rubbish. All the gay couples, either male or female have been JUST as committed to eachother as hetrosexual couples. Just cos your gay does not mean that you go through life, just having sex with other people of the same sex and feelings for that other person is not relevant! In reply to: but rather that it seems that people of the same sex have more in common, form friendships fare easier, enjoys one anther's company far more and might even be sexually more compatible. That statement could be used for a man - woman relationship too, which is why people get together and spend their lives with eachother, cos they have so much in common, are sexually compatable and enjoy eachothers company. In reply to:That homosexuals somehow made a conscious decision about being gay, which I think most gays would agree with. I have known gay people who strived for years not to be gay, but ended up having to except who they were. Being gay is not a concious choice, a gay person doens't just wake up and think - well, today and from now on I will be gay! People are either gay or not, its not a choice, in fact like i said in some areas of the world if they could choose to be gay or not, they would choose not and not have to suffer the discrimination and abuse that being gay brings them. In reply to: This then seems to be the one crucial aspect within human society - the ability that human males has developed, to be sexually tolerant of one another... In my experience its the men that have the least tolerance towards other men who are gay.
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MyNature - I hope you don't think i have been following you around the board getting all pissy about what you have posted I have had a very boring day - and i just wanted to say ' Welcome to the Boards'