Since my earliest recollection I have always been every aware of my own sexuality. I also became to realize that sexuality is at the core of our being. That all other behaviour would be merely supportive to this biological function. Within in the family and then later society itself, it was indicated to me in no uncertain terms, that this was the 'Holy Grail' of human existence.I also became aware that the way males and females would experience their sexuality, would be significantly different from one another. That for woman it would be all about love and romance and for men it would be the gratification of an immediate sexual need. But in the end both parties would be united in their commitment to their natural obligation. It would seem to me that nature invested all of it insurance for procreation into men and all of its ability into woman.When ever I would think about this topic, the same thought keeps on recurring to me; that female sexuality is fake, well at least as far as males would perceives it. That despite all obvious evidence and contradictory to what males would like to believe, woman are not sexually motivated the same way men are. That woman would also use this difference to their advantage and would be able to manipulate men, in doing what they want and providing them with what they need.Woman also seem to be the guardians of human sexual behaviour and males are kept in line through a prose of being made ashamed of their behaviour. Men would also fear their own sexuality and would look towards woman for approval and acceptance. Since woman are not 'afflicted' with any immediate physiological need, they would have the necessary leverage to manipulate men in this way. But then woman are also fooled as they to do not quite understand male sexuality either. I once heard this joke and though I laughed, it also struck me with what seemed to be a truth; Why do woman fake orgasms? Because they think men care? As a child I was constantly reminded that woman would perceive men as 'pigs'. That they would frown at male sexual behaviour and then I also knew that they did not even knew halve of it yet. I always wondered if females also masturbate like men do? But never could find any real evidence of this. But then going through my sisters draws looking of some fossilized sock, was maybe not the right way of going about this either. I don't know if I am actually qualified to make these conclusion about female sexuality, but this is what I became to know about woman. Also finding the parallel in nature, I also know this to be true of all animals.Comparing gay men with straight men, searching for the differences in their sexual behaviour and never finding any real fundamental difference, it struck me that I was looking at this problem completely wrong. That I was trying to explain human sexual behaviour from a male point of view. That human sexual behaviour after all does not have all that much to do with sexual gratification, sexual compatibility or sexual ecstasy, but rather something far more important to our existence - procreation. Whow, what a revelation! But then that is just the way with me and things - it takes me halve a life time to realizes something, I already knew as a child.
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From my viewpoint then In reply to:That for woman it would be all about love and romance and for men it would be the gratification of an immediate sexual need. Women want gratification too, its just in history women were seen as whore for doing just that, society sees men who 'sow their seed' as studs, and women who wants sex as whores. As men get older I beleive that their 'want' is to be loved too, maybe not as much as women but its there, and some men enjoy the romance as much as women, also, some women don't go for romance as most people see it. In reply to:That woman would also use this difference to their advantage and would be able to manipulate men, in doing what they want and providing them with what they need. And men use theirs to control, as in many women think thats part of the 'job' to satify their man, or he might go and find someone else to do it for him. A womens self image is also strongly based on how men find her sexually, if she is unattractive she is worthless cos men won't want her for sex. In reply to: Woman also seem to be the guardians of human sexual behaviour and males are kept in line through a prose of being made ashamed of their behaviour. Men would also fear their own sexuality and would look towards woman for approval and acceptance. I don't get the sentence 'kept in line and through prose of being made ashamed of their behavior'. In the same way you say men look towards women for approval and exceptance, women look to men for exactly the same thing, as in the ugly=worthless crap. In reply to: Why do woman fake orgasms? Because they think men care? a few reasons, one: some men beleive if HE doesn't make her cum, then there is something wrong with HER, not him - two: She knows that if he feels he can't make her cum he begins to doubt his own sexuality and that bring a whole lot of problems, so its just easier LOL. In reply to:As a child I was constantly reminded that woman would perceive men as 'pigs' I have never regarded men as pigs, in fact there are 'pigs' in both sexes and its nieve to think that all men are one thing and all women are something else. If a woman instills that kind of thinking to her children, its because she is weak, and doesn't do anything about the behavior that causes her to think of her man as a pig. The one thing as a mother i strive to instill in my children is strength and confidence - to have their own opinions, and to not put up with anything from anyone. My children wouldn't think of men as pigs, cause i don't let them act like pigs.Ok thats my two penneth!