Currently I am in a relationship with my partner of about a year. We have oral sex frequently, and I top him about once a week, but only once in a blue moon will I let him top me. I won't say that it hurts because it really isn't a pain I feel, it's just that my anus, rectum, and prostate are overly sensitive. It takes me quite a while to adjust to his penis, but after I do I'm ok for about 20 minutes then I just get overly sensitive, and it's uncomfortable. Everytime I make the mistake of asking him to pull all the way out, which of course only makes it worse on my anus when we try again. But I guess long story short, my question is what is the best method to go about desensitizing those areas? It's it more or less a "practice makes perfect" kinda thing?I will also say that I am not a bottom by nature, but I do get some emotional fulfillment out of it, and he likes to top every now and again so I do it when I can for as long as I can.Thanks
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Desensitizing the anus
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Well, since I'm a girl, I don't know if this will really help you. But, when I do it, I have to play with myself. And when I start making myself feel 'good', I don't even realize what's going on back there. Does that make any sense? Also, LOTS of lube and mentally relaxing yourself is the key. But I'm with you. he only gets it when he's been a very good boy.
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Hum, by oversensitive, do you mean that the stimulation reaches a point where it becomes almost pain? I know that when I finger my ass a bit fast for a few minutes, the pleasure gets so intense that it turns into pain. Not blinding pain, but enough that I just have to slow down or stop for a few seconds before continuing. Maybe it's the same thing, in which case I don't have a solution for you
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Im totally with you on that one Delish kiss
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Also agree with the lube and relaxing thing. Once I've warmed up real good, pulling my fingers out completely and then pushing them in all the way again is so easy I almost don't even feel it.Since you're a guy, maybe this is like you. As long as I'm only playing with my ass and leaving my penis alone, it's very easy to relax and become loose. But whenever I start stroking my penis, my ass will start clenching almost immediately. So I don't know if you're also doing both, but I know it takes longer and more concentration to be able to stimulate both areas effortlessly.
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Yeah, it becomes oversensitive to the point where it's not painful, but annoying, and by the time we slow down and relax enough my ass has again returned to its normal size, makes it a bit difficult to have amazing sex. I was at a porn store today and I saw an anal desensitizer, I'm gonna try it, will let you know how it works.I don't even try to play with my penis when there's something in my ass. I don't get hard, it's not so much sexually fulfilling for me, but it is emotionally fulfilling. Every now and again I'll start to get hard, but shortly after comes the feeling of annoyance within my bowels. :::shrug:::