I have a problem that I want some advice on...My girlfriend yesterday was very very upset because her aunts were moving to Alaska, and they were a big part of her life. She was crying and was very upset: I suggested that she call her mom and talk with her about it, I suggested this with the assumption that her mom was a normal mom.When She called, she started telling her mom why she was really sad, and asked is she (her mom) could stay home next weekend so they could spend some time together (her mom and step dad go out to casinos and bars EVERY weekend). Her mother took this as my gf accusing her of never being home. Please remember that my gf is still crying at this point. Her mother's temper escalated and she said many things, including: Your ruining your life, your abandoning your family, your spoiled and selfish, Your going to end up a bum, etc.WTF IS THAT? Your own daughter calls you, crying, and asks to spend some time with you and you scream at her?The next day her mom took away her car (but still makes her pay insurance on it), prohibits her from coming over to my house, and prohibits her from getting rides from me... She is absolutely psycho and is clearly an alcoholic. This is tearing me up inside, ALL of this just comes from her wanting to spend more time with her mom...Does anyone know of anything I can do to help her? Edit: her mom just told her that she isn't allowed to go anywhere after school.. I dont know what to do here, and it's tearing me up inside.
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She's gone too far: advice
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How old is your girlfriend?
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old enough to drive a car.I think the mother definetly took it too far and should get some help (considering she is an alcoholic etc.) I think your girlfriend should speak to her father about this and get things worked out.
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she's 16. Her mom just said that she was sorry, but this isn't the last time this will happen...
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I'm glad her mother has cooled down. I'm sure you're right, though. There's no way you can change someone who has a personality disorder like that. The question is, how long can she stand it, and what can she do to escape?I think the first thing she can do is turn to a school counsellor or other counsellor. That will establish a record if things get worse and it becomes necessary to take some sort of action.The best thing you can do for your girlfriend is give her all the support you can. She needs to know, and be reminded, that she is doing the right thing. She needs you to give her a reference point, so that she knows she is the sane one.