Ok.. My girlfriend gave me head a while back, we haven't done it since, but we plan to soon. But the one time she did, it felt good, but not that good. How can I say "you dont give good head" without offending her? She's kind of into dominiation, so would it work If i jst told her to do better?
Giving her advice
Yeah... you definitely don't want to come right out and tell her she sucks at sucking. It's much better to tell her what she does that you do like when she's doing it, and if she doesn't take hints from there then the next time you set out to do the deed just whip it out and make a request! Explain to her or show her what you want done to where and what pace/pressure. If she's not comfortable watching you pleasure yourself she shouldn't be going down on you anyways. One thing though, if she does anything that hurts be sure to tell her right away and enthusiastically, i.e. "Teeth! "
...One can get a little carried away with an erection in one's mouth...
I know what you mean - - first girl I was ever with sexually gave me a blow job and sucked the head so hard it was painful. I'm not into pain, so there was no way I was going to cum. But she was so intent on making me squirt, that she just sucked harder and harder.
Telling her to "do better" isn;t going to accomplish much. That's like you screwing up open heart surgery and the nurse saying "do better" next time. It takes some training and practice to get proficient at it.
One girl I was with told me that she had an ex who flat out told her she gave terrible blow jobs, and showed her the "right" way to suck. Must have been a great teacher, or else she was a great student, cause she gave awesome head - - had the lips/tongue/hands all going perfectly. The first time I ever came from a blow job it was in her mouth.
So yeah, I think you need to show her what you'd like her to do. Looking back, I wish I'd said something to the girl that first sucked me.