Strange Male Mood Swings

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For the past few years, I've been in a sort of mood pattern. Happy all day...from 3 til 5, I'm irritable, and from 6-9, I'm lonely. I recently moved to a new state, very far away from my old town, and I've noticed a progression in these. I seem to be getting more irritable, and can sometimes lash out at people during the previously stated time, and I have been getting even more and more and extreamly sad and lonely at the other time. Recently, I got to the point to where I was so sad, that I appeared to myself to have broken down and I just felt very unnoticed and sorta useless. I quickly got over it after the time, and went on normally, in a very happy, cheery mood. As though nothing had happened. This confuses me greatly. I could chalk it all up to teen-age hormones...but that doesn't seem right. I'm not sure what it is, but I want some opinions on it. If you could.

I'm like that too... I'm depressed at evening/night more than other times...

It does seem odd. I don't quite know why I would be. But usually the things I think about is this girl I've liked for a few years. That really brings on the loneliness

In the evening things tend to wind down ... you don't have as much to do. This causes you to think more about things .... also the fact that it's dark outside doesn't help the situation ... most people associate darkness with sad things ...Technically you could probably "get depressed" during the day ... if you just sat in a dark room just doing nothing you'd probably get depressed ... thinking about things like that girl you've liked for years ...Hope that makes sense.

i've always enjoyed the night though. What you say makes a lot of sense. But I love to stay up til 2 am and go outside and just enjoy the street lights and the quiet. It's EXTREAMLY relaxing and soothing to me. But I do think that maybe you've got something there, with the winding down and such in the early evening. But I still have that afternoon anger spell.

Trust me, I LOVE the night too. It's 4:30am right now, so that just says everything.I'm like you, I like to go out and take walks in the night when I can ... it's just so much better and different, without the constant noise from cars/lawn mowers/ppl/etc. ... I just like that.But then there's the fact I'm usually depressed at night, which I don't like ...

Yeah, it's 3:30 a.m. here. I don't know. I'm actually pretty cheery right now. I don't have a reason to be, but I am. Maybe I should try and find some more hobbies to get my mind off the depressing things? If you're right (and I think you are) about having more time to think about these things that could send me down (and there are a lot of things, like the fact that if I stayed in WV, I'd have gone to college for free, and now I have to pay tens of thousands of dollars), maybe if I just got a few more things to do, I'd feel better? Keep myself busier?

You never know, I could be wrong about this ... it's just what I've put together from several years of experience on this and what other people have said about it too ....You could try finding things to get your mind off at night ... it might help for you.I've tried that same thing too, finding other things to get my mind from thinking about depressing stuff, but it never worked for me ... I just kept thinking about things and getting depressed every night.But it might work for you, I'd say give it a shot. Good luck.

Yeah. It's not like though that I have a whole lot to really be dpressed about anyway. I'm young and have my whole life to plan for. I'm pretty sure if I find my old legos and start building a scale model of the Sears tower (again). I won't be so sad. Although, I've found that even with the accompanying sadness, I still love thinking out that girl (Shannon).

If you don't mind could I ask a few questions?1) How old are you?2) What are some things you're depressed about?Also, if you want you can either make a new post either here or in the Relationships forum and talk about Shannon ... for some people it helps to just talk/write about things for them to feel better. Maybe it will help you.

I'm just 16.I'm worried about things like the college I told you about earlier. The repeated rejection from Shannon (short nutshell of the problem: We're good friends. I like her A LOT; She knows.. She gives me 'friendship' excuse... for 3 1/2 years I waited patiently. She doesn't give me one chance.)The move REALLY got to me. I went from 3 story house to an apartment the size of my old room. I miss my full size bed...I'm stuck in the single bed (which wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so old that it is literaly less comfortable than the ground [and being an Eagle Scout, the ground is pretty comfy]). I haven't been able to fit in at my new school well, where at my old school everybody knew me, and I had a small group of great friends. Another thing would be that my mother isn't motherly. (in short, if I asked her anything about like sex, girls, relationships, or my feelings, she would laugh at me and make jokes, and rarely help. I leanred about sex etc.. by reading her medical books and asking the school councilor. [mom's a nurse]). Also, a good friend of mine was raped earlier this year. To continue, my family is in some financial trouble, and again, my mother doesn't help by spending all the money we need for bills. Dad is almost fed up, but he keeps to himself and complains to me...he only does that because even though he's about fed up with mom, he doesn't want to put my through anything. I could think of more things, but i really don't like to complain about my pety problems, when other people have it off worse than me. And I talk about Shannon constantly to anyone who'll listen, not much more talking would help, but I might try later tomorrow.

Yeah, 16 is still young, so lots of things can happen and probably will (for the better, that is).About Shannon ... she lives in WV right? And now you moved to Nebraska? How long ago did you move? It's hard to get over a person you've liked for that logn if you still see her everyday and are friends with (not that there's anything wrong with that). But now that you live in Nebraska you won't see her (at all perhaps?) and it will be easier to get over her. Trust me, once you find another girl you really like Shannon will be easily forgotten. Yes, some moms are stuff ... espcially if you want to ask her about things like relationships and sex .... some parents aren't comfortable talking about that kind of stuff with their kids. Some parents (though this may not be the case with you) still think of their kids as the "cute little kids" like you were 8, even though you're 16 now. They have a hard time getting over the fact that their kids are growing up. Again, this might not be your case, I don't know. You could still ask your dad about this stuff though, he'll know a little about it too, even though it probably won't be as much as your mom could tell you, but it's better than nothing. I've also found the internet (specifially this site) to help a lot with questions about that. Most questions I've had have already been asked here, so I can just read up those threads and that usually answers my questions. If it doesn't I can just post a new thread and ask the question .. since this place is called Afraid To Ask. It sux that your friend was raped ... the best thing you can do is be there for him/her if he/she needs any support, which he/she probably will need, or maybe already has needed.Money is a tough issue ... especially if your mom is out spending it on other things than bills. Somebody (your dad maybe?) needs to make it clear to her that you guys have financial issues and that she can NOT go around spending it on other things ... things will probably get better eventually with the money, and then she could spend her money if she wants.It's ok to "complain" about your problems... after all that's what this place is for. And no matter how small or big your problems may be, they are still problems which need to be solved. Many small problems add up to one big one.If you want to talk about Shannon or anything else ... I'd be willing to talk to you. I have just about any messenger out there (I have Yahoo, AIM, MSN, ICQ, IRC) so you can just PM me where you'd like to talk, or you can just say it here.

Yeah. I try and make things seem as positive as they can for as long as I can.I moved Last August. Probably wierd the move still affects me after so long, huh?As for Shannon, yeah. I've been trying to get another girl. What's odd though is that when I meet people on the net and stuff, and just talk with, those girls near my age are interested in me, and wish there were more guys like me. But here, girls don't appear to be interested in me, Maybe it's because I'm not tall (5'6") or because I use some big words, or maybe because I'm new. I dunno. As for the mom. She blunts will not listen to what you say because she is "always right" Period. No discussion with anyone. Ex. Dog only needs 1/2 cup food a day, orders from vet....mom says 1 cup a day, and the dog is WAY overwieght now. Then it's my fault beacuse I don't walk him enough. She continuously pokes fun at me and such. I really don't like her much, but I try and steam on.My parents don't have a problem with me growing up, but mom trys to keep it slow and under her control. More for her whimsical power hungriness than for her baby boy. Me.I might take you up on that IM offer, but maybe later, cause I"m kinda lazy, and it's late and I don't have enough energy to think in real time, that's why I like message boards.

It is a bit weird that your move still effects you after all these months. Are all these effects because of Shannon?About finding another girl, don't worry. Someone will come along eventually. My advice is don't try too hard to find someone else ... if you try too hard you'll be forcing yourself into liking someone, which is not what you want.Your mom .... those kind of people are tough. Sorry but I don't have any advice/suggestions on that .... How's your dad? You said he "complains" to you so I'm assuming you're closer with him than you are with your mom?About the IM ... that's fine. Just PM me with where I can find you. I'm on most hours of every day so that shouldn't be a problem ...

A lot of the time, it does seem to be SHannon, but the other things seem to pile up and cause the most of it.Yeah, the whole girl thing, I perfer to sit back and wait with a casual scanning of who I like, I'm a pretty intimate person (and thus I find it important to say I'm planning on abstinance 'til marriage) and I really don't like being with someone I really don't like.I'm closer to my dad than my mom, and we're there for eachother, but I don't really feel comfortable talking to him about some things. He's very conservative, and I'm somewhat conservative in values too. But that makes some discussion difficult. I'm sure he would help out as best as he could, but I'm just not comfortable with the idea...but actually...as I'm thinking about it, I might explore that route a bit more now.I tend to just ignore my mother...but sadly the way she treats me has caused me to sometimes lash out at her unnecessarily.

We can talk about those "other things" on IM if you want.About your girl thing ... that's good. Just sit back and someone will come along. And it's also good you have standards like "abstinance until marriage" at least you kinda know where you're heading in a relationship.I understand you don't feel comfortable talking to your dad about things like that. I'd say the next best thing is these boards, like I explained earlier. Ignoring your mom is a good idea. And of course it gets too much after a while and you lash out ...

has anyone considered the possibility of bipolar disorder?

Bipolar mood swings aren't usually as fast as that. There's something called cyclothymia that involves more rapid mood changes, but even that is usually over days, rather than a single day.

Borderline Personality Disorder

it's something very hard to understand... i get mood swing all the time... actually i can be normal outside but depressed deep inside... i can understand that u went through so much changes recently, so that would be a great factor why u r feeling this way... for me, even though it seems like i have diconnected my feelings for the old by moving on, however, emotional connection r still there... so just realize it's normal 1st... then try not to be alone... go find something to do... like something that would make u laugh... laughter can be very useful to treat depression... actually the best way to treat depression for me is to let someone i loved to hug me until i fall asleep ... anyway, i am just a silly girl who get depressed most of the time...