Is it weak to talk online

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Is it weak to start to talk about getting more serious (ex, a relationship, more than friends) online and then say you'll talk on the phone?

yes

thanks rolls eyes

Well you asked what did you expect?That's basically one of the worst ways possible to start a relationship ... the only thing worse than that is having a friend do it for you.Get some guts, talk to her. She'll like it much better than you talking to her online about it, trust me.

Ive started relationships online. First geting to know Her and then going more intimate. But there is one big BUT in here. When You start this online, then You better meet Her in real life ASAP. Dont hang on there for more than two weeks max.

There is a difference between online relationship and real life one. Online consists of only words, and no real body language and eyecontact. And words are only a mere ~20% or so of the actual influence in a conversation.

Also You may be fond of a person online, but meeting Her in real life things may easily change. Sometimes they dont, but most likely they will.

One more thing, if You keep this online thing going for too long, then itll be akward when Youll actually meet Her in real life.

So yeah, since online is getting more serious thing in relationships nowadays, it is one good way to get to know more people, but never ever have it last without actual meeting in real life, for more than two weeks or so.

Just my two cents..

Online girls suck if thats what you're talking about.They're always guys and they always want your pic, you can tell they're a guy if they have a name like "CuteGirl54" and they have a hot pic that looks like it was scanned from Maxim. Then they want to meet you and sodomize your ass. Trust me I know.

HAHA I'm sure you do now @paul: Don't listen to white lines, as you might be able to tell he has no idea what he's talking about.

i only make posts like this to piss you off because you devote all your time and resources to me and i think its funny how much of a loser you are that i can even say that

You're right, ALL my time and "resources" are devoted to you, and nobodoy else. You ARE that special.Psych.

yes it is.. it's cool to maybe flirt on msn.. but do all the serious biz on the phone or in person

seems like it, you have a problem with anything i say.

white_lines? Shut the hell up for the sake of people asking for help here. Damn.. Do this biz elsewhere. Do You HONESTLY believe Your three posts in this thread are any help to the original poster?

hey im just disrupting serious threads they way people do to me

That's Unibomber logic. Why don't you just go out and kill some people? I'm sure it'll make you feel a lot better; after all, some of those people may have wronged you.

yeah guys.. how bout we take it a little more off topic

Haven't seen the original poster since 17 April, so this thread is pretty well spent, n'est-ce pas?

Telling us we're off topic is meta-off-topic. My telling you that your off-topic post is off-topic is second order meta-off-topic. Unsupervised, I'm having a Douglas R. Hofstadter attack.

Actually Stevie , April 17 was when he registered. This thread was started on June 11. lolBut I might as well put my two cents in here since everyone's jumping on white_lines. Only I'll be a little nicer. I have a screen name somewhere along those lines. Mods please don't edit I'm not actually posting my username. Just using for reference. Some people have names like SftBllGirl183 or SpartanGirl186. I have a name along those lines that has to do with the college I'm attending in the fall. No one thinks I'm a guy.Anyhow, I talked to a guy for much longer than two weeks before I actually met him in person. It wasn't awkward at all. In fact I was very much happy to be in his company and we found all sorts of things to talk about. The internet can be a wonderful and dangerous thing. Just be sure you know who you're talking to. White_lines did make a good point. If someone's hounding you for a picture, it's probably not a good idea to keep speaking with that person, you never know what kind of ulterior motive they have. However, say you've been corresponing with them for a little bit and you feel like you're ready to meet them, do it in a public place. Always a must. NEVER go with someone you've only spoken with online. It can be an awesome experience to meet someone you've spoken with online. I know people who met their spouses online and they're doing great. But protect yourself. Don't do anything that could put you in danger. And if at any time you feel uncomfortable excuse yourself to leave. Say something came up and you have to go. Don't keep yourself in a situation you feel uncomfortable in.The internet can open up doors of all kinds. Some good and some bad. Just be careful of the ones you're opening.

I KNOW HER IN REAL LIFE!!! im sorry i should have been more clear. were both kinda shy and i think it might be easier than playing the phone game for a little while more atleast.

personally i think its fine to chat to her online, as long as you don't say or do something you can't back up/live with in real life when you meet her. I met my soon to be husband online, and we chatted a lot, online, and on the phone before he finally came to visit.........it can work but with everything, what you do and say online or on the phone has real life concequences

good idea

I also remember doing some (bad, I might say) tests after I got out from the army. Ive talked about this before, but after the army I explored into this nice guy thing more. so one of the things I tried out was an online dating thing. What I did was steal three pics from random rate-my-pic sites. One playboy, one average, and one this average no-physical-activity guy. Then I picked six girls, all god in their looking (but no britneys, since I didnt want any sort of that influence around).So I "played" with them. I am, yes, ashamed, but I was interested in the results. It took about two weeks. Starting with emails, then going for instant messaging. Actually there were eight girls, but two I picked "failed" since they werent online as often as I could have wanted. So with those three made-up guys, I gave each of them a different personality. Every guy had two personalities, one playboyish, another this sweet nice guy with no actual sexual stuff included.I also used my friend for help, since he is interested in all sorts of test.Dont easily remember the details of the test, but the results were interesting. With this outgoing guy, the letters were short. No actual deep meaning in them. There was just one gal who tended to write more to this outgoing guy than just one paragraph. Nevertheless, these nice-guy personalities went kinda deeper, as is actually expected I think.BUT, there is a big BUT. The next week, when I started this instant messaging (which was pain since I didnt have so good preparation for conversations, as I did for writing mails), things kinda changed. Outgoing guys got into this flirt roll, that made girls more chatty. Nice guys had long conversations, but nothing really "too interesting":One of the girls "bailed out" before the end of the test though, she wasnt interested in the guy at all.Nevertheless, the last phase of the test was the question if She would actually meet the guy in real life. Out of five remaining girls, four girls said yes.Outgoing guys won though. Two of them got dates. Two of the nice guys also got dates, but one of them got this "friends" tag on him for life.Frankly I believe its too easy to cheat online. I mean really, it was not hard playing another type of guy neither for me nor my friend. The guy one talks to online can be totally different in real life, and I dear hope that girls watch out for that.Definetly pick public places as was recommended. No matter what You feel, since I know from personal experience how easy it is to charm a girl online. Its easier than real life, since online its not so easy to see whether You are true or not.Most of the communication comes NOT from the words spoken. So yeah..If anyone wonders, I did say to each of the girls in the end that this was a test. Got some mad words, but I was too interested in the results at the time.This did get me into final conclusion that online conversations are dangerous and people should REALLY watch out what they are doing. Usually I get to know people also from one of those rate-my-pic sites, where its easier to see if the person is real or not. But thisis so only for quality sites like that.Ah well, enough about that now.Online conversations are good, cheaper than phonebills, and can work nearly as good. This comes from personal experience (and people who have read my first thread that Ive posted here, know that it is so). Nevertheless, dont neglect anything else if You know her in real life. Try to balance it out. And no dont rely on online conversations. Dont go further than a couple of compliments here or there, and keep rest of the serious stuff for actual conversation. Im sure You do know that girls love compliments ten times better when You tell it watching straight into Her eyes.(Is it just me or am I becoming some sort of bad version of this Hitch in these forums )