I also remember doing some (bad, I might say) tests after I got out from the army. Ive talked about this before, but after the army I explored into this nice guy thing more. so one of the things I tried out was an online dating thing. What I did was steal three pics from random rate-my-pic sites. One playboy, one average, and one this average no-physical-activity guy. Then I picked six girls, all god in their looking (but no britneys, since I didnt want any sort of that influence around).So I "played" with them. I am, yes, ashamed, but I was interested in the results. It took about two weeks. Starting with emails, then going for instant messaging. Actually there were eight girls, but two I picked "failed" since they werent online as often as I could have wanted. So with those three made-up guys, I gave each of them a different personality. Every guy had two personalities, one playboyish, another this sweet nice guy with no actual sexual stuff included.I also used my friend for help, since he is interested in all sorts of test.Dont easily remember the details of the test, but the results were interesting. With this outgoing guy, the letters were short. No actual deep meaning in them. There was just one gal who tended to write more to this outgoing guy than just one paragraph. Nevertheless, these nice-guy personalities went kinda deeper, as is actually expected I think.BUT, there is a big BUT. The next week, when I started this instant messaging (which was pain since I didnt have so good preparation for conversations, as I did for writing mails), things kinda changed. Outgoing guys got into this flirt roll, that made girls more chatty. Nice guys had long conversations, but nothing really "too interesting":One of the girls "bailed out" before the end of the test though, she wasnt interested in the guy at all.Nevertheless, the last phase of the test was the question if She would actually meet the guy in real life. Out of five remaining girls, four girls said yes.Outgoing guys won though. Two of them got dates. Two of the nice guys also got dates, but one of them got this "friends" tag on him for life.Frankly I believe its too easy to cheat online. I mean really, it was not hard playing another type of guy neither for me nor my friend. The guy one talks to online can be totally different in real life, and I dear hope that girls watch out for that.Definetly pick public places as was recommended. No matter what You feel, since I know from personal experience how easy it is to charm a girl online. Its easier than real life, since online its not so easy to see whether You are true or not.Most of the communication comes NOT from the words spoken. So yeah..If anyone wonders, I did say to each of the girls in the end that this was a test. Got some mad words, but I was too interested in the results at the time.This did get me into final conclusion that online conversations are dangerous and people should REALLY watch out what they are doing. Usually I get to know people also from one of those rate-my-pic sites, where its easier to see if the person is real or not. But thisis so only for quality sites like that.Ah well, enough about that now.Online conversations are good, cheaper than phonebills, and can work nearly as good. This comes from personal experience (and people who have read my first thread that Ive posted here, know that it is so). Nevertheless, dont neglect anything else if You know her in real life. Try to balance it out. And no dont rely on online conversations. Dont go further than a couple of compliments here or there, and keep rest of the serious stuff for actual conversation. Im sure You do know that girls love compliments ten times better when You tell it watching straight into Her eyes.(Is it just me or am I becoming some sort of bad version of this Hitch in these forums )
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Is it weak to talk online
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Thank you. If he wanted this thread to stay on topic, he wouldn't have registered on April 17th.
I met two people on line, one on Usenet, and the other in Yahoo's penpal forum thing (the way it used to be, before it was buried in spam) on-line; and then in real life. No romantic relationship resulted (it wasn't the point), but I'm still in touch with one of them (if fact, we've stayed at each others' houses). No photos were requested. In one case the other person sent a photo, and in the other, their photo was already online in their Yahoo profile.
Maybe we could communicate in a less stilted way because romance wasn't the intention (although the first one plied me with chocolate). I haven't tried to make an actual romantic connection on-line, although a while back I met someone who gave me her e-mail address, and I convinced her to go out with me (not easy; she was having some screwy end-of-relationship issues).
But I dated someone else who after we went our separate ways used one of the popular on-line dating services, and she did very well. But she wasn't close to being a teen.
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i started a relation ship up like tht once before, i was chatting to her online after about 2 months i found out she was in my school and in the class next to myn lol, we started sayin hi at skool and chatting on fone for long and be i knew it i was with her.
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maybe just being friends and just talking online is cool, and maybe just talking in a way that u can lead up to asking out someone, but that def should be done in person, and just forget about cellphone messages, that is very weak