I need some etiquette advice.
The thing is I started dating someone and my first thought is I want to see her all the time, but I know I need to take it easy and pace myself. Only I have this feeling like one day I don't see her feels like a week.
To make matters worse, we live in the same building so I feel really tempted to go say hello.
This week I ran into her at a store on wednesday after we went out both sunday (unscheduled) and monday (scheduled) and she seemed a little crowded.
I'm pretty sure she's still into me because we're going out to do something next week and I offered to cancel it due to difficulty scheduling and she didn't want to. But the thing is almost like she wants to go do some activity but not interact outside of that venue. I feel like I'm getting a hot and cold treatment sometimes. Like she's annoyed when I show up but she would ask me to come in and sit and talk.
So I think what I need to do is back off a bit and give her some space by avoiding her until our next date on wednesday. But if I have to do this through the term of our relationship I can't see the point in continuing. What the hell is the point of seeing someone once a week? But to be fair it's still very early in the relationship...
So here it is: how often are you supposed to have contact with someone you're dating in say the first weeks, months, year, etc? What is normal?
Also, is there any sense in talking to her about this? Or should I wait it out a bit?
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Because it's early in the relationship, she probably still wants all of her space. The good thing about just dating rather than being a steady bf and gf is that you can hang out with the other person when you feel like it, and you can also have free time to yourself without that other person crowding you. So when she's out at the store or by herself when things are not scheduled between you two, that's time to herself. I know with me, and maybe it's true for most females, that when I'm just starting to date a guy, I may like him enough to want to hang out, but I don't like him enough to hang out ALL the time. That's why I need to feel it out first, give it a few weeks, and see if he's worth it. If I could potentially fall in love or have stronger feelings for him. THis girl you're dating probably doesn't know what she wants yet, so she's going slow and making sure you're not completely in the picture. And if you feel like you like her enough to want to be with her often, then maybe you should back off a lil' so you don't get so attached. She'll appreciate it, and maybe find it attractive that ur not so clingy. Women want men who have other things to do besides hang out with them or wait around.
People come, people go.
Alright, so this situation has evolved. I decided to give her space and we were supposed to go see a movie about a week after that last time I saw her. But the thing is on the weekend at like 1:30am on saturday night I saw her going up to her room with another guy (I was in the common room in the dorms we live at, which is right next to the stairs). So anyway, I cancelled our date and haven't talked to her since. She gave no explanation and I didn't bother asking.
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