first of all, i thank white_lines. all the posts by him (i presume white_lines is a guy) lit up my life. (for various reasons)erm... yeh, the post. i am in my late teens, a guy, and a student.i am going almost crazy over this girl, but i don't know if i can call it love or not. she's the same age as i am, physically on the attractive side (though i gave up on the idea of 'just getting laid' about three years ago) and mentally (strange phrase, but anyways) i feel very comfortable around her.i won't ask any advice about what i should do, asking her out or anything, i'm just wondering if it could be love. ever since i've started to realise that it could be, it feels like i have a flame burning inside me. i actually feel some sort of warmth in me. but that feeling alone... it could be anything.i'm just confused about myself, i don't want to rush it. she didn't have an easy life, and things are turning better for her recently. i don't want to hurt her in any way, such as if we get into a relationship (bf and gf, so on) then i start realising that i didn't actually love her, or something like that. i wouldn't be able to forgive myself, she would have a hard time (and she's had more than she deserves...)at times i get angry at myself because of this, i think myself as... selfish. though i haven't told anybody i know in everyday life about this, but i still feel angry at myself because i think that i'm not making a move because i'm afraid more that i'll hurt myself than her. (but when i try to think about it, i can never figure it out.)argh, the previous paragraph made no sense. to sum it all up, i think that i'm in love, but don't want to rush it because the damage it will cause will harm me in every single way. (by depressing myself directly and by seeing her suffer... it's one of the unbearable thoughts) i know i care for her, i know i'd take a bullet for her without even thinking about it once (i am not just saying this), and that thinking of her leaves a warm sensation in the middle of my spine, but i'm confused.is this just extreme devotion or is it love?it's not that i need some 100% confirmation that it is, but i'd like to have some advice. she lights up ly life, i don't want to darken hers with an unsure action...
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Lights up my life
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In reply to:is this just extreme devotion or is it love?Why can't it be both?I think you're overanalysing, when the situation calls for action. Go for it, starcatcher.
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Yah i kind of know what your talking about man, with me soemtimes i feel like i love my gf then other times i dont
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Although I don't think I've got much worth saying here it is:Whatever you call it love or devotion, I don't think makes a difference. You feel how you feel. If you'd take a bullet for her, she must mean a lot to you.If you're worried about where you're at, I suppose there's no harm in just hanging out and becoming good friends first. Then you can go from there.
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From personal experience, you will hurt yourself more if you don't go for it, and as for hurting her... You and only you truly can know whether you would do right by her. You obviously care a lot for this girl and thats the foundation of a good relationship is honest to GOD feelings for one another, not just a "Crush", I say go for it and if she turns you down, don't give up. Women are weird and thats just fact, but guys are stupid and thats just plain gospel. We as people overanalyze everything. You can't live life based on what ifs and just go. This is coming from others and my own personal experience and it is my professional opinion. Feel free to E-mail me anytime about this and any problems at Jaymes_Conners@Yahoo.com Good Luck and Good Times Friend.