How do you cope?

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how do you deal with depression? do you cut,or drink? or what method do you comfort yourself?

well, i cut but not for deppression reasons or anything like that. I guess i figure this have to happen.

I don't understand the "why" behind your first sentence, and I don't understand your second sentence at all.

There is no "why" and the second sentence is a sig. Stop complaining Steve.

Well is in the first sentance, not why. And you're right i messed up on the second "I guess i figure this have to happen." Should have been "I guess i figure things have to happen, Life can't be perfect" It must have been late at night, or i was in a hurry.

You don't seem to understand punctuation in the English language, Mr. Penis Poster. There were two sentences before the sig. I wasn't complaining about the grammar; I meant: "So then, why did you cut yourself?" Without the rest of the second sentence that was provided later, can you explain what it meant, smartass?

I usually have a good cry and then try to see how I am going to get myself to feel better. I had a really rough time about 3 years ago which was the lowest point in my life. Without going into detail it was external influences that made me very sad and I was very hurt by someone and I just sunk deeper and deeper and could not get out of it. It lasted about 5 months and then I just could not take any more and decided to end it all. Obviously it failed(thank god) but I realised then that I needed help. I was on pills for a while which helped me so much although I realise they only mask the problem and don't cure the underlying problem so when I felt stronger I talked and talked to someone outside of my family circle and gradually came to realise that I could see light at the end of the tunnel. I still have days even weeks where I feel like shit but I just try to not let it get me down. The hardest thing is to face it head on and deal with it but it was the only way I coped with it and thankfully i feel like I have come out the other side now. Good luck to everyone who may be feeling low, I know how it feels and send you all a hug hug

ha,ya i can understand.music is a big one for me,it drowns out all the pain,but cutting has worked also,too bad im all alone and theres no one to talk to about what i deal with

i tried drinking,which helps sometimes,smoking didnt do anything at all,writing poetry and listening to music helps alot,but nothings does it like cutting,why? got any ideas?

Ok after reading your posts and your lil profile think you sound like your teypical "emo" kid. So I would say turn off the depressing music. Its not fucking good for you dude. If you listen to music about having no girlfriend and sliceing up yourself and depressing shit like that its not gunna help matters. Depressing music doesnt chear me up when I'm down, I dont think it chears anyone up.

No thats not a generalization, he has emo lyrics as his signature and various other things point to him being an emo kid. Emo music is depressing hence the name emo. Short for emotional music, sorry to him if he doesnt listen to it (tho his quote is blindside and they are kinda emo, their first cd was ok but second was shit) but I was just suggesting that emo music wouldnt help his sutuation. I'm not saying its shit but personaly I dont like that kind of music. Im just saying its pretty depressing music. And theres you again jumping to conclusions and twisting what I say to try and make me look like an ass hole.

AGAIN you dont read my posts. JESUS! You twist everything around and its really anoying. I said it wasnt helping. He may have a shitty life and chemical imballences the lot but either way listening to depressing music isnt going to make him feel better. I didnt say it was the reason why he was depressed I said it just probrably want helping. But I'm sure youre going to twist what I say around again to make me look like I was posting some kind of mean comment to the guy.

Again with the twisting. So youre saying that if he does have depression listening to depressing music will help it. Because I'm just saying it wont. And fuck you I was depressed for 4 years and tried to kill myself twice so dont give me that bull shit about I dont know what depression is. Anyway answer that question above.

The idea, "If you're depressed, listening to depressing music won't help", stands on its own, no matter what the poster may have said in the past. It's either true, kind of true, barely true, or false, or true for some people...or not. Who says it has no effect; attacking the person making the statement serves no purpose.If someone says, "1 plus 2 equals 3", its correctness doesn't hinge on the personality of the speaker, or how good he is at math in general.

> You haven't.

In that respect, you are wrong. As much as I try to stick to the point, once you get angry, rationality seems to fall by the wayside. Then it just becomes an insult-a-thon.

Even if you're upset with a person, do you think it would be possible to answer what they actually write, rather that going non-linear?

So, do you think the idea that listening to depressing music when you're depressed might not be prudent?

Wording? Who said anything about wording? A statement was made that was germane to the thread topic, and since you're upset with the person who posted it, all you can do is insult that person, and not address the point he made, whether or not you agree with it.

I guess I'll just have to go to my grave not knowing your position on that poster's point. But it's certainly clear to me how you feel about the poster.

IMO, being depressed, listening to depressing music, reading depressing books, wearing all black, etc. feeds they cycle. I'm not saying that listening to happy music will solve the problems of a severely depressed person, but some people do get into a "depressing lifestyle" rut.

Damn. I guess I will go to my grave without the knowledge I seek.

My post was relevant to the thread. It's about depression, and the effect of depressing music, which there is good evidence that the OP listens to.Your post, however, is releated to nothing. I tried to coax a relevant reply from you, without success.(I knew you couldn't resist replying, even though you said you were done. I'll bet you answer this post, and I'll bet with nothing relevant. Hang on folks, and let's see what happens.)

Just going to pop in here. I think that everyone is different as to how they feel their depression and how they deal with it and what makes them feel better. For me listening to sad music didn't help but other things did. What helped me may not help another etc etc.I think we need to try and support the person who feels like shit instead of saying what we think is right and wrong. xxxx

Apparently it’s impossible to have a reasonable debate with her without her taking it personally and getting insulting. People are always going to have different opinions but she is too stubborn to accept them. She claims you post too much but she seems to have the time to home in on all my posts and twist what I say around to make it look like a personal attack on other people. I have noticed she likes to try and turn everyone against certain members of the board and people are too afraid to speak out and challenge anything she says. Just because someone has a different opinion doesn’t give her the right to give people shit, and mock them for having an opinion that is not the same as hers. This board is about discussing things not hurling pointless abuse. I don’t really see what I did to her to start her off but I don’t really care because I would rather not be friends with bitter stubborn people like her. All the threads I post on end up with me bitching at her because she decides to give me shit and to be honest it’s not fucking on since she is basically hijacking everyone’s thread. She can talk about you hijacking but she is a fucking hypocrite. This thread went to hell as soon as she posted in reply to me trying to make my post look like an attack on the poster which its not. In fact I was trying to help by expressing my opinion of the matter. But she fails to see obviously doesn’t understand the concept of opinion. I probably should have replied this to kristal or whatever the hell her name is since it ended up being a big rant about what a twat she is.