Well, I'm not sure where I should post this, in the Teen forum, the sex forum, or the relationship forum, but I think this is the best place. I'll keep it short and to the point as i am quite busy.Alright, I'm 16, tall, and a little muscular.. I am quite athletic. My family is quite conservative, Very conservative. Because of this I havent really gotten into a relationship because my parents say "relationships in highschool don't last and they are only for people who want to playaround." Besides they want me to focus on school and other dedications (athletics, after school, clubs, volunteer, etc)Well, this past year at school I've really been interested in girls more then ever. I've flirted with a few a little bit and hung out with some. Some of them asked me out but my parents said i couldnt. Then i turned them down in a funny way so they still like me even though they wanted to go further. Well, towards the last few weeks of school, I was talking to one of these people who i like, who is a senior. Even though we only have one class together i talk to her a lot. Well, I didnt get very interested in doing anything with her (because she had a boyfriend) UNTIL, I was walking with her down the hall and I get her aim screen name. I started talking to her that night for about 3-4 hours and the truth came out. She had been attracted to me the whole year (partly because of my ethnicity and looks and partly because of charming personality). However, in october she asked a senior out (someone her own age). She still had her eyes on me and flirted with me. (she flirts a lot and admits it, but she told me she had flirted more with me). Anyways, the night i got her SN, i found out that she'd be willing to do some things with me and hang out. She also wanted me to talk dirty to her to turn her on and I did and she got really horny and then I wnet to sleep. Within the next few days we hung out a lot and did some fun things. (shopping, went to a festival, musical, and hung out at the mall). Well, finals time came and I needed to pass a class so i decided to study with her (she's very smart, which is something that turns me on). Well, we arranged that we'd give each other oral sex in her large vehicle. Even though she had a boyfriend she justified it by this: "I'm only practicing with you. I can get hints and tips from you. I'm doing it because you're an awesome friend. It'll be an occasional thing." Well, on the designated day, we went out to a private place and made out. Then I pulled down my pants and right before she was about to give me a blow job, she said "i can't do this to boyfriends name here, i'd feel so guilty". So she let me relieve myself on a tissue which i threw into the woods. I was dissappointed, because i'd never had it before, but she said she was really sorry for leading me on. She also said that if the situation was right, we'd have gone out earlier in the year. Well, dissappointed, we finished the evening by studying the real way (making sexual innudendos the whole time.)Well, we studied one more time right before my final at her house from 4pm -6:30pm. She had to leave for a senior dance and she put on this really sexy dress. When she came back to me, i said "you look nice". Then she took me home. Two nights later, i was talking to her on aim and found out "if you would have said, 'you look sexy' and hugged me, i'd have started making out with you. My justification would have been 'you suprised me and my hormones were uncontrollable for you". I was dissappointed because I knew that's what i was really thinking. (that she was sexy and not just nice)Well, summer has already had almost amonth of me and we've continued to hang out. I'm busy with a part time job and exercising, but we do things about twice a week. Anyways, we havent talked very much about sex or oral sex or other stuff, but she's really nice and attractive. She can't hangout very much with her boyfriend because he works all day. But she still spends a lot of time haning out with him at night. Recently, we've gotten a pass to a gym that we both live close to but we havent gone there together yet. Now, for the part where you come in Just yesterday afternoon i was talking to her. She wanted to hang out but i was busy and really tired from working out. She said " i feel like i should go and give you a hug or something." later in the same convo she said "so lets hang out today. i dont have anything to do." later yet she said "let me know if theres anything i can do to make you feel better". Usually i would have made a sexual comment after that but i just said "no thanks, i'm fine right now."So, what should I do? I have learned this past year that my female friends are very horny if you talk to them and can do just about anything with them (except non protected sex). I just dont think I have the guts to do anything for real behind my parents back. AND i have lots of camps i'm going to pretty soon.*appreciate anyone who's read this, it was a long type. any advice would be awesome!
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Need Advice for Relationship: Next Step
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Well, there are a few things you could do. First, its summer, so mommy and daddy shouldnt get mad at you for a girl in your lifeis she still with her guy?most of its up to you. IMO, i would hang out with her just to have fun. If something sexual happens, so be it. But its better to be friends and have fun than nothing at all.
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Even though it's summer, my schedule is packed. I am doing so much stuff. Besides they'd say no anyways.Yes, she is still with her guy.
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I'm afraid if she is still with her bf she's taken, and that's it.But at some stage you will probably have to stand up to your parents. Not now, but some time.
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She's still with her boyfriend. That's the truth, nothing else, nothing prettier or uglier.
If you do anything with your friend, you both will have this feeling of guilt, especially your friend, as she would be cheating on her boyfriend. As for you, imagine if YOUR girlfriend cheated on you. What would you feel and act? If it was me? I would beat the crap out of you if you cheated with my girl. I imagine most guys would think like this if their girl cheated with someone.
Give her up, plus your parent's aren't okay with it. I don't think that getting on bad terms with your parent is such a wise thing. They ARE feeding you, so respect their wishes until you are mature enough to be responsible for your own life.
If you still want to have a girl friend, try finding someone who hasn't got a boyfriend and respect you for being you. Your friend, believe it or not, sees you as some type of sex toy. C'mon, don't you realise that?
I'm telling you this as a friend, you might as well ignore me if you want but you wanted advice from someone who's been through it all, didn't you? well, this is my 50 cent, yet why not a dollar. :grin:
-Taison! out :smirk:
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I actually think shes treating your pretty badly. Flirting is one thing, promises of something more, then taken away is quite another. I think you should just see this girl as a friend, hang out have fun, but also get on with your life too. She seems to only want to spend time with you when she has nothing better to do.........maybe i'm wrong, but i get the feeling she is playing with you. All girls get all horny and excited at that age when they flirt, talk dirty etc etc, but she has her boyfriend to be doing stuff with, so i don't get why shes leading you on!Find a girl that repects you, and wants you. In my opinion anyone who considers having oral sex with someone when they are with someone else is just a tad slutty, and even if she were to dump her boyfriend and become your girlfriend, could you ever trust her not to do the same thing with some other guy?Enjoy your summer, meet a fab girl and have the best of times, leave this other girl with her boyfriend.
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In reply to: I'm afraid if she is still with her bf she's taken, and that's it.But at some stage you will probably have to stand up to your parents. Not now, but some time. I'm not planning to stand up against my parents. I dont want to be rebellious. Besides, I am a christian so that wouldn't be a very good idea.
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In reply to:I am a christian so that wouldn't be a very good idea.Huh???
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I saw the movie "Seeing other People" (2004) starring Jay Mohr and Julianne Nicholson. The relationship we have here is just like the one between Donald and Alice, except I am not like Donald in the fact that I have other relationships going on at the moment.Just as alice watned to have meaningless sex, so did this girl, except she started to develop a relationship with me. We're still really cool, but she hints a lot of stuff.Last, she still spends a lot of time with her boyfriend every day. For example, she spent 5 hours with him last night watching 3 movies until 3am. I'm sure she'd do something more with me, but I don't want to sacrifice our friendship. But I'm not sure how much of a friend she wants to be to me. She wants to hang out a lot and be a "true" friend. I am the person limiting our friendship because of my busy schedule (according to her)
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Well, it's your choice. I were you, which I am not, I would find another girl and forget her. seriously, she's just playing with you, and watching 3 movies? maybe she was doing something else, I don't think she would say what she really did. Just move on, forget her. There are others out there. The temptations of sex is strong but it's just that, temptations. Sex when abused is not pretty, it's slutty.-Taison! out
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spend less time posting a long ass problem and more time hooking up
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In reply to: spend less time posting a long ass problem and more time hooking up Well, I already spend enough time trying to get hookedup. Now it's time to see what you guys think. I have way to many possibilities. I'm just trying to sort them out.
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Well, it's your choice. I were you, which I am not, I would find another girl and forget her.
Well, I can't really forget her because we are really good friends. She would have gone out with me if I would have asked her. She just thought it would be awkward of her to ask me at the beginning of the year.
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seriously, she's just playing with you
Well, before we did anything together, we discussed what I would actually be. She said she didnt want to use me as a toy or a tool to relieve her hormones because I meant more than that, but after talking to her, that's what it really was... no matter what justification we tried to come up with.
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and watching 3 movies? maybe she was doing something else, I don't think she would say what she really did.
Actually, she talks openly to me about what she does with her boyfriend. She gives him blow jobs about 3+ times a week because he enjoys them so much. Before she talked with me more intensely about it, she couldn't get him to cum. After she talked to me about it, I gave her a few hints and tips and that got him to get his "juices flowing". He even said "wow, you've gotten better at this." And she was very suggestive about her relationship at school as in assuming what happened when she said something would probably be the truth.
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Just move on, forget her. There are others out there.
Just because there are others out there doesnt mean i can have a relationship with someone. I can't officially "date" until I'm out of high school or my grades get up.
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The temptations of sex is strong but it's just that, temptations.
Very true
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Sex when abused is not pretty, it's slutty.
That is true too. She even mentioned that she can be pretty slutty... Or that one of her dresses is really slutty. And we came no where close to sex. Just oral fun :wink:
I really appreciate everyone's comments. Keep them coming. thanks
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anyone else want to comment?