I'm really not sure what I should do. I was talking to a friend of mine on yahoo lastnight and she really pissed me off. I asked a simple question about her boyfriend who happens to be one of my best friends and she started acting all jealouse because I call him every once in a while (because I never see him anymore because 1)we live in diffrent towns and 2)he's still in high school. I grew up with this girl and this guy, we've spent the night at each others houses when we were younger, we all went to the same church for years, and yet she doesn't trust me? Heres some of the conversation me (11:20:17 PM): hey, what grade is JD in now?friend (11:20:25 PM): 11thfriend (11:20:26 PM): whyme (11:21:07 PM): just wondering, I couldn't rememberfriend (11:21:11 PM): yeahfriend (11:21:17 PM): i have a questionme (11:21:22 PM): kfriend (11:21:23 PM): from just off the wallfriend (11:21:30 PM): do you like him at allfriend (11:21:35 PM): like more than friendsme (11:21:47 PM): no, he's like a brotherfriend (11:22:11 PM): well just from different things that i have seen i get that impression and i dont like itfriend (11:22:18 PM): sorry if i sound rudefriend (11:22:19 PM): but im not trying to beme (11:22:22 PM): I trust him alot, and hes been a really good friend to mefriend (11:22:36 PM): yeahme (11:22:46 PM): well you don't have to worry about me hitting on him or anything, I think of him as a brother and thats allfriend (11:23:16 PM): well its kinda weird when you go to his house and he checks the recorder and theres a message from a girl on there saying to call mefriend (11:23:34 PM): bc he means the world to mefriend (11:23:49 PM): and i will not lose himme (11:24:13 PM): I don't want him like that ******, you don't have to worry about itfriend (11:24:18 PM): kfriend (11:24:33 PM): i mean i dont mean to sound rude or whatever butfriend (11:24:36 PM): and im sorry if i dome (11:24:53 PM): what do you not want me to call him anymore or anything?friend (11:25:18 PM): well i mean idkfriend (11:25:52 PM): but i mean how would you feel if you went to your bfs house and when he checks the recorder a girl is on there saying........... hey call me friend (11:25:55 PM): you knowme (11:26:47 PM): well hes like one of my best friends and I don't ever get to see him and so I call himfriend (11:26:54 PM): yehfriend (11:26:57 PM): yeahme (11:27:25 PM): You don't have anything to worry about, I don't think of him like that, and I'm happy you guys are togetherfriend (11:27:33 PM): k It really hurt my feelings because she basically told me not to contact him anymore. Why? He has been one of my bestfriends for ages and no I harbor no romantic feelings toward him so I don't understand why she would act like that towards me. She knows how hard I tried to get them together and how happy I was when I finally did, so why in the hell would I try and break them up? I'm sorry but I'm just not into the whole "I wanna steal your boyfriend" type thing, and I deffinatly would never do anything to jepordize their relationship. So the question is, should I give up one of the best friends I've ever had to make his girlfriend happy? What should I do? BTW, she has treated me like I'm scum when ever I see her in public lately, and she always has to show me her 'promise ring' he gave her even though he told me he gave her one and she has shown it to me a thousand times. What should I do?
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Should I give up a friendship to please his gf?
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Your friend is just uptight and paranoid about losing him. She talks about you as "a girl", so I'm guessing she is getting very jealous.
Ya just got to make sure she understands, there is no reason to give up a friendship just because she is paranoid.
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i would keep the friendship. no reason not to. just keep talking to her, and keep letting her know.
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**don't give up the friendship There's no reason to. it sounds as if she is really jealous about you. Don't worry aobut it. Try to be really cool and polite whenever she is around :smile:**
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she seems very very jealous and it really sound like it is something she needs to get over. I don't think you should stop being friends with him. It's not like your throwing yourself on him. I don't get the jealous girlfriend thing especially when they are so jealous their boyfriend can't even have female friends...that is stupid...
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Sis, tell her to shove it. Jealousy is a petty emotion, and she seems VERY jealous, he has probably said how much he like you to her etc, and now shes paranoid. Her insecurity is her baggage, don't let it ruin your friendship with him, bare in mind, they might not be together in a few months. hugs
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Well I've decided I'm not going to let it bother me, it’s really not worth my time or energy. To me she sounds really insecure about their relationship, and I know that I'm not the cause of it. I will not give up my friendship with JD just to pacify her ego and her own insecurities. I put a lot of thought into why she might think I have/had feelings for him and I guess I really can’t blame her. If I were to look at the situation from her point of view I might make the same assumptions myself. JD and I have a fairly close relationship, we hug whenever we see one another, and and when we chat we put our arms around each others shoulders. So I can understand some of the jealousy, but then again, she shouldn’t be because who is the person dating him? Her. Who does he say “I love you” to? Her. Who does he kiss? Her. If she’d just stop and look at her relationship she’d know that it is her that he wants, not me. She doesn’t know how lucky she is to have such a great guy, and I’m afriad shes going to ruin it just because she can’t handle him having female friends. If she wants to walk around with a stick up her ass and accuse me of trying to steal her boyfriend, so be it. I just wont mention him in conversation with her anymore. I wont give up my friendship just because she can’t handle it or because she doesn’t trust him enough. That’s not my fault, and I wont be blamed for it.Thanks for all the advice guys (you too sis hugs), it really helped alot.