Well..there is a guy I like he's a bit older than me. (nine years to be exact) And he's black, I don't have a problem with any of this of course, but my family isn't very open minded. Also he doesn't know I like him, well I didn't tell him atleast..although I've dropped hints. I asked him to hold my hand at a concert (and he did) Just little things like that. I've known him for well over a year. He's the guy I've ran to with my tears and my laughs. I'd seriously go crazy if I didn't have him to talk to. He knows all my secrets and everything, he makes me feel so much better. I've fallen asleep over there and he'd pick me up, put me in his bed, and sleep on the couch, but once I had a nightmare and asked him to hold me durring the night..is that so wrong? So I guess I'm afraid if I tell him I like him..I'll lose everything I have with him.Sorry for my post being so jumbly...As you can see..I have alot of confusion with this, and need help just about everywhere.If anyone can make out and pinpoint the questions in my confusingly juble of confusion, please help. thanks....>Amanda
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Need a bit of help
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If you don't tell him, you'll spend all your life wondering what might have been. So I think you should.
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You just turned 16 and he's 25? Don't you think that's kind of a big age difference?
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Yeah I know it's a big age gap, thats why I'm a bit hesistant. But I've never really felt this way about a guy.
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Hmm, SteveA has a good point. One problem with a big age difference is that you will be a different points in your life. And it makes it more likely that he won't feel the same about you as you feel about him.
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I don't mean to give you a big hard time over the age difference (although it can lead to legal problems, depending on where you live), but you have a serious crush on this guy. You are not in the same place as he is. That makes you more vulnerable.
How two-way is the relationship? He knows all of your secrets; do you know all of his secrets? Does he come to you when he has a problem? When he comes home from work and you come home from high School (you going into 10th), what do you guys talk about? How would he feel about introducing you to his friends as his girlfriend?
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He talks to me about just about everything too. He comes to me when he has a problem. And I'm going in 12th grade, not 10th. We talk about everything from weird pizza toppings to whats on the news to our hopes and fears, we cover it all. I know a few of his friends, and he doesn't have a girlfriend.