My problem...

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I wasn't sure where to post this or if it's even appropriate for these forums but you guys seem really, really cool and I was wondering if you could help me. This girls been calling me a lot and messaging me on AIM, we've talked all night before, it seemed like she was really interested in me and wanted to get to know me, so we hung out a few times as well. Somewhere between talking and actually hanging out this girl really began to grow on me. I let my guard down, something I usually NEVER do. It was a huge mistake. I'm one of those untrusting people, it's not cause I want to be, I have to do this because of all the people out there who just really don't give a shit about you. I know she does/did care about me, but now she's into these older guys that don't care about her and just want to get into her pants. Her sister told her this but she wouldn't believe it, when she finally learns it will be too late. I don't know. I'm so confused about what to do. I need advice.

In all honesty there isn't much you can do. You can just be there for her and watch her back. How big is the age difference here? If it's illegal report those perverts. Truthfully if she wont listen then she will just find out the hard way when she gets her heart broken and sometimes that is the best way for someone to smartin up. Just go with the flow and if you have to get someone else involved.

She was probably so interested in you cause you had your guard up, once she got through you were just boring. I'm not saying that you are a boring person, but to her there may have been no mystery left, if she asked a question you'd probably just tell her instead of the fun of trying to figure it out and coax you into telling her.Just my theory, I know those kinda girls. They seem interested, but once you open up they get bored.

Well I called her. Convo kind of went like this.. (I called her, left msg, and she called back)..

Hello?
hey ..you called?
yeah I just wanted to see what you were up to
Oh I'm at starbucks with my friend
OH cool yeah I can hear all the noise in the background
Yeah...
so whats up?
well we're about to go thrift store shopping so, i gotta go now.
oh. i guess I'll talk to you later then.
Yeah. Bye.
Bye.

i could tell by her tone of voice that she didn't want me calling her. I don't know why though. Anyways I talked to her sister and it looks like those guys (the 18-20 year olds) don't really like her that much.

my plan is simple. ive never really been an athletic guy, but im a natural ectomorph(Sp?) so i've never really gained MUCH weight, im at most 15lbs overweight. i know she rates how much she likes a guy on physical appearence so im gonna lose it before the schoolyear starts (or try). and maybe strike up a convo with her at school and see if she changes her mind. hopefully by then she's not going out with one of those losers.

Whether you lose the extra pounds is irrelivant, its the personality of a person that matters, and if she doesn't like you for who you are, there is no point in persuing it...........lose the weight if it makes you feel better, but i think you ought to set your sights on someone who likes you for who you are, you deserve that.

I have this feeling in my stomach, at first it was like butterflies when we were on good terms and talking all night, but slowly turned to more of like heartburn when she stopped talking to me. i can either mope around and let it eat me alive while doing nothing, or i can take action. everytime i give up ill feel that and keep going. PS: I noticed you live in UK, people judge you a lot more by appearance in USA, especially california. (i wish it wasn't so)

anyways im about to eat a bananna and go jog till the sun comes up.

People, whether you are in the states or the UK judge you by how you look, is just human nature, especially at a young age..........people are sooo judgment here too, but, personally I have never let it bother me, i am who i am, and if someone doesn't like it, then fuck em - their loss.I understand you get this weird feeling when you talk to her, it sounds like you have a crush on her, and it might be that you really like her and that your really interested, but, if she isn't interested in you, then why bother..........personally i would put my energies into someone who liked me for me, rather than someone who was so superficial that they only liked me for how i looked, or what i wore.

I know it will work out because she had a crush on me first, my stunning personality maybe? lol. Anyways over the next month she'll be hearing from a lot of our mutual friends that I still like her and when the glamour of hanging out with 18 year old guys wears off, she'll take their advice and come looking for me. When she finds me I'll be somewhat new and improved. ;o i guess thats my motivation, if it doesnt work out atleast i accomplished something.

i really wish things will work out for u... it's a good decision to become healthy... however, that girl u r talking about... she seems like one of those still in exploring phase teenage girls... sometime girls don't know they r making silly decisions... even u warn them about the consequences, some girls will stay with their silly ideas but some will change... just be there for her and be her friend...