i want to stop masturbating.it's really getting out of hand. everytime I do, I'm guilty, and I beat myself up about since I am a Christian.i'm 13, I shouldn't be doing this. i don't care if it's normal. i know i'll be healthier and my mind will be clearer if I quit.please, help me. what are some ways I can stop.
-
I wanna stop.
-
keep yourself really busy like find a job, play sports, find a hobby. Be around people all the time. That way you wont have the opportunity to do it. Do something to tire yourself out to the point where all you wanna do when you finally get a chance to be alone is sleep. Dont look at any porn. uhh i dunno i guess thats pretty much all you can do.
-
Not all Christians agree that masturbation is sinful. And I don't see how you'll be healther and your mind will be clearer if you quit. You'll just have more wet dreams. But if you must, you'll just have to keep yourself busy and your mind occupied, as abc123 says. Instead of thinking about sex, read books. Read about cars. Watch sports. Baseball statistics are a good distraction. Build something. Concentrate on your breathing before you go to sleep...keep your mind clear.But while you're doing that, do some more research on masturbation and Christianity. You might find that you're worried about it for no good reason.
-
it's not just about the religion part though. i just feel overall dirty and out of place.. it's kinda weird to explain. but yeah, i'm going to try to beat it..
no pun intended. -
i just feel overall dirty and out of placeHave you given much thought to why you feel that way? Because around here, most folks seem to happily engage in it. Do you feel OK about the idea of sexual relations with another person? (I'm not suggesting that you go have sex.)
-
i used to feel guilty for no reason at all.i knew everyone did it, but i still felt dirty.Now i don't fell guilty or dirty. I have no idea why i don't anymore.FYI, i'm a catholic christian
-
yap, keep urself very busy and try exhust ur body... don't be alone... when u have to be alone, make sure u r already too tired to do such deed...
-
God loves you and i'm sure he will understand that you just want to find release if you tell him so in your prayers.
Seriously dude, just do it and enjoy it. I severely doubt God would send you to hell for all of eternity just because you want to play with your johnson. If you really want to avoid it though, cover your cock in bandaids. Not only will it feel severely unpleasant to touch ( like giving a crocodile a handjob ) but you'll be seriously reluctant to remove them because it will sting quite badly. You'll still be able to pee just fine, but you'll resist all urges to masturbate. When you find that you don't feel like masturbating any more you take the bandaids off ( very slowly and carefully, don't choose a brand with too much stickyness because it will be harder to remove )
Just my advice. Good luck!
-
lol cover your dick in bandaids! thats a first.
-
In reply to:
But while you're doing that, do some more research on masturbation and Christianity. You might find that you're worried about it for no good reason.
Steve is right. There are a lot of well known Christian leaders (including James Dobson) who don't think that masturbation is the huge sin you may have been led to believe it is.
Now if you're worried about it being an addiction, or about excessive lust...those are different things altogether and warrant different responses.
-
i ain't even a virgin.. so yeah, I'm ok with sexual relations.the thing is, it's becoming addictive, and I don't want it to. and I can imagine how stupid it looks to walk in on somebody masturbating, and I can picture how stupid I look masturbatibg.
-
I can understand how you feel if you're addicted, an the addiction is causing problems in other parts of your life. But you are way too hung up on masturbation and how it looks and feeling dirty and silly stuff like that. Besides, it's a sin to have sexual relations with another person outside of marriage. That's why God gave you a left hand that can reach your penis.
-
whenever you are horny or want to jerk off, just do something that turns you off real fast, ex, since you are christian, read the bible. theres no way i can wack off when im thinking about Jesus loves me etc. Trust me. I just lasted two months as master of my domain. it was a challenge i gave myself to see how much self control i have, and i made it all the way through because of that.The Best of Luck to You!
-
I am also a Christian.I bought this book not too long ago called, Every Young Man's Battle.The first part is about premarital sex and the second is about Masturbation. It says the only way Masterbation is not a sin is if you do it about someone you love not someone you lust. I'm not sure if this is true but it is a pretty good book.
-
I've had that addicted feeling before- at one point during a summer break, I had gotten to the point where I was jacking off 6-7 times a day. One thing that worked for me to slow down was thinking about a person I respected, or cared about alot (like a really good friend) and thought about how they would view me if they saw what I did. Yes, it was a bit of a guilt trip but it worked. The best advice I can give you is to keep yourself busy. If you feel that your addicted, and you really truely dont want to COMPLETELY quit, keep youself busy, or do something to try and slow yourself down.
-
> if you do it about someone you love
Not your mom or your sister, though.
Does that mean you have to be in a serious romantic relationship with someone before it's OK? What if you're single?
-
I don't know if it matters if your single.I'm not even sure if it is true.But overall, if you really wanna stop then slow down. Talk to your friends on the phone often and say to yourself... What would they think of my hand in my pants???You have to work at it.
-
I know what you are going through.I was masturbating before i became a christian and stopped afterwards.I had some problems with the churches and people,as well as some religous laws that i departed from Christianity.The thing that u are going through is depression and you are using you body to try and run away from whateva is eating you up inside.It could be anything.Masturbation is not evil but it can lead to some serious problems if the person who does it, is having problems.I think the word is called "somitisation". My spelling could be wrong but please try to find out more.The best thing to do is to seek help, by looking for a psychiatrist and finding a good support group.I am going through a similar ordeal at the moment with myself and i can tell u it is not easy.It would be nice to be in contact with you and to share our experience but that is up to you:)
-
with apologies in advance but I can't resist a little dig or two at the phrases used in discussing quitting masturbation..."it's really getting out of hand" - well actually, if you are masturbating, it is getting into hand."I beat myself up" - beat up, beat off, beat the meat - lots of ways to talk about it without saying it"i'm going to try to beat it.." - and here I thought you were already beating it.but kidding aside, why would anyone be all weird about masturbating. Sure, there's this so-called christian moral thing and as well the original Scouting for Boys talked about it as if it were wrong. But reality is that masturbation is healthy and normal and fun too. If it wasn't, men and women would have died off, never done it or given it up for a lost cause generations ago.I was reading a report the other day which said if you ejaculate 12 or more times a month you start to reduce your risk of prostrate cancer. And those who ejaculatred 21 times a month were 1/3 less likely to suffer prostrate cancer. So, to try to avoid prostrate problems and surgery (which leaves guys impotent), I'll just keep wanking away.As for it being a sin, try the bible - they clearly list the deadly sins and self-gratification is not one of them.as for feeling unclean, try doing it in the shower so you stay clean as you masturbate (ok sorry again for that one but I could not resist it). But really people, feeling unclean is another moral judgement imposed by those who feel sex and things sexual are dirty, nasty and never to be discussed. It surprises me that those people actually ever procreate.Well, I can't convince anyone to do it or not do it, but if you are going to do it, then at least:a) keep the number of times a day under controlb) never miss school, work, a chance to hang out with friends, etc. just so you can masturbate.c) clean up after you ejaculate - a shower is nice but a bath with a whirlpool is better.d) and above all, enjoy what you were given by your creator.happy wanking