lol cover your dick in bandaids! thats a first.
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I wanna stop.
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But while you're doing that, do some more research on masturbation and Christianity. You might find that you're worried about it for no good reason.
Steve is right. There are a lot of well known Christian leaders (including James Dobson) who don't think that masturbation is the huge sin you may have been led to believe it is.
Now if you're worried about it being an addiction, or about excessive lust...those are different things altogether and warrant different responses.
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i ain't even a virgin.. so yeah, I'm ok with sexual relations.the thing is, it's becoming addictive, and I don't want it to. and I can imagine how stupid it looks to walk in on somebody masturbating, and I can picture how stupid I look masturbatibg.
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I can understand how you feel if you're addicted, an the addiction is causing problems in other parts of your life. But you are way too hung up on masturbation and how it looks and feeling dirty and silly stuff like that. Besides, it's a sin to have sexual relations with another person outside of marriage. That's why God gave you a left hand that can reach your penis.
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whenever you are horny or want to jerk off, just do something that turns you off real fast, ex, since you are christian, read the bible. theres no way i can wack off when im thinking about Jesus loves me etc. Trust me. I just lasted two months as master of my domain. it was a challenge i gave myself to see how much self control i have, and i made it all the way through because of that.The Best of Luck to You!
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I am also a Christian.I bought this book not too long ago called, Every Young Man's Battle.The first part is about premarital sex and the second is about Masturbation. It says the only way Masterbation is not a sin is if you do it about someone you love not someone you lust. I'm not sure if this is true but it is a pretty good book.
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I've had that addicted feeling before- at one point during a summer break, I had gotten to the point where I was jacking off 6-7 times a day. One thing that worked for me to slow down was thinking about a person I respected, or cared about alot (like a really good friend) and thought about how they would view me if they saw what I did. Yes, it was a bit of a guilt trip but it worked. The best advice I can give you is to keep yourself busy. If you feel that your addicted, and you really truely dont want to COMPLETELY quit, keep youself busy, or do something to try and slow yourself down.
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> if you do it about someone you love
Not your mom or your sister, though.
Does that mean you have to be in a serious romantic relationship with someone before it's OK? What if you're single?
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I don't know if it matters if your single.I'm not even sure if it is true.But overall, if you really wanna stop then slow down. Talk to your friends on the phone often and say to yourself... What would they think of my hand in my pants???You have to work at it.
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I know what you are going through.I was masturbating before i became a christian and stopped afterwards.I had some problems with the churches and people,as well as some religous laws that i departed from Christianity.The thing that u are going through is depression and you are using you body to try and run away from whateva is eating you up inside.It could be anything.Masturbation is not evil but it can lead to some serious problems if the person who does it, is having problems.I think the word is called "somitisation". My spelling could be wrong but please try to find out more.The best thing to do is to seek help, by looking for a psychiatrist and finding a good support group.I am going through a similar ordeal at the moment with myself and i can tell u it is not easy.It would be nice to be in contact with you and to share our experience but that is up to you:)
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with apologies in advance but I can't resist a little dig or two at the phrases used in discussing quitting masturbation..."it's really getting out of hand" - well actually, if you are masturbating, it is getting into hand."I beat myself up" - beat up, beat off, beat the meat - lots of ways to talk about it without saying it"i'm going to try to beat it.." - and here I thought you were already beating it.but kidding aside, why would anyone be all weird about masturbating. Sure, there's this so-called christian moral thing and as well the original Scouting for Boys talked about it as if it were wrong. But reality is that masturbation is healthy and normal and fun too. If it wasn't, men and women would have died off, never done it or given it up for a lost cause generations ago.I was reading a report the other day which said if you ejaculate 12 or more times a month you start to reduce your risk of prostrate cancer. And those who ejaculatred 21 times a month were 1/3 less likely to suffer prostrate cancer. So, to try to avoid prostrate problems and surgery (which leaves guys impotent), I'll just keep wanking away.As for it being a sin, try the bible - they clearly list the deadly sins and self-gratification is not one of them.as for feeling unclean, try doing it in the shower so you stay clean as you masturbate (ok sorry again for that one but I could not resist it). But really people, feeling unclean is another moral judgement imposed by those who feel sex and things sexual are dirty, nasty and never to be discussed. It surprises me that those people actually ever procreate.Well, I can't convince anyone to do it or not do it, but if you are going to do it, then at least:a) keep the number of times a day under controlb) never miss school, work, a chance to hang out with friends, etc. just so you can masturbate.c) clean up after you ejaculate - a shower is nice but a bath with a whirlpool is better.d) and above all, enjoy what you were given by your creator.happy wanking