Okayy, I'm dating a guy a few years older then me, and for about a year we've been really close. We started dating last December, but we decided to try just being friend's for a while because he was moving to another town and we wouldn't see each other.. Well he got the opertunity, a few months later, in february, to move close to me, which he did, and we got back together.. We still didn't barely ever see each other, and he had to work, and thing's were hard at the time, so we decided to just be friends.. We both really really cared for each other and wanted to be together, but we decided to try being 'friends with benefits' for a while, since when we were dating we wouldnt see each other and it seemed it would hurt more.. Well we did that for a couple months and got really close, and we ended up sleeping together, a couple times.. Then he found out he had to move, but he decided not to, because he wanted to be with me. We started going back out about 2 months ago, and thing's were so perfect! We saw each other every day, we hung out for hours, and we were so incredibley happy.. I really truely love him, and I know he loves me too, and he always tells me, I thought thing's were going to stay good like that for now on.. But about a week and a half ago, I was fighting with my friend, and she doesnt like my boyfriend, because her boyfriend doesnt like him, and they fight, so yeah, well anyways me and my friend got in this huge fight, and she told her mom a bunch of shit about him.. Some thing's that weren't even really true.. Well I made a mistake, and the last time my mom had asked me how old he was, I told her a year younger, afraid she'd be mad at his age, and I was going to tell her once she got to know him, because once she got to know him she really liked him, but my friend told her mom his age, and her mom called my mom and told her, and she is mad cuz I lied to her, and now I'm not even aloud to be friends with him, because people have told her a bunch of thing's about him like he does drugs and all this shit and its not even true.. She called him and told him we cant hangout or be friends anymore, and I cried my eyes out and she never even cared.. He called me back, and she let me talk because he wanted to tell me something, and what he told me was that he really loved me.. And he really didn't want to break up.. And I told him i didnt want to either.. Later that night when my mom left he called me so we could talk it over.. He told me how he wanted it to work and had to make it work and I said the same, even tho we might not see each other much anymore.. Well, now at night, when my mom goes to bed, he throws rocks at my window to let me know when he's here, and we go and hangout in my backyard and everything, for hours in the night.. But thats the only times I've seen him so far.. I've talked to my mom and begged her to let me be friends with him again, but she said maybe in a while, but i know if that ever happens, it wont be for a long time. I really love and care for him a lot, and have never had such a great boyfriend, but I just dont know what to do.. I wana try and make it work, and maybe we'll end up being able to see each other, who knows, but it makes me so sad thinking about how it used to be, and it'll never be that way again..Sometimes I think I should end it and try it when im older or when things get better, but i really dont want to lose him, this is soo hard.. Please help me.. What should I do =(
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What Should I Do? =(
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Sorry for it being so long by the way
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That would have been a lot easier to read with paragraphs.After all that, you didn't say how old you are and how old he is. If you're living at home with your mom and he's moving around, it gives me the impression that there's a pretty big age difference. What are your ages?
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he isnt moving around anymore.. but 14 and 17
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There are still issues of maturity and legality, but I was afraid it was something like 14 and 25.You did lie to your mom, so you're going to have to regain her trust. It'll take some time. You're in a tough spot...you are living in your mom's house. Hopefully she'll eventually be willing to meet him, and he'll impress her.
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No No as I said before she has met him and she liked him but now she doesnt cuz hes a year older then she thought and people are sayin bad shit bout him
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Hmmm...that is a problem. I don't know what to tell you, other than to try to win back your mother's trust. It might take some time. If you go around her and she finds out, your life could get even more difficult.
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I know..and this is making things for us so frustrating..grr =(