Was it good??

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I talked to this boy at work and he said that if a guy doesn't come back for seconds the sex wasn't good. I recently had sex with a friend of a friend, and there have been chances of doing it again but he doesn't want it, I asked him if it was good and he said yes, is there anyway i can know for sure?

Don't listen to boys at work. Some guys just want to take advantage of a situation, and then they move on, even if they had a great time. They only way to know for sur is to be able to read his mind.

What were you expecting from the relationship besides more sex?

just more sex

Relationships based on just sex are pretty unstable. There's no emotional attachment or friendship...people just come and go...they don't care.

I agree completely with steve, and if you aren't emotionally attached... then don't worry about it and be hurt.

err, that was supposed to mean don't worry about it and don't be hurt

The problem is that even if they don't care, you might start caring...and will be hurt.

which, can lead to sexual addiction.

I'm not sure what leads to sexual addiction, but being hurt leads to being hurt...as you would in any relationship where you start to have feelings for the other person, and they walk away.

how can that lead to sexual addiction...?

I'm not sure if I fully understand what Steve was saying in one of his last posts, but sometimes having sex for no emotional reasons can lead to sexual addiction, basically as someone in these forums said the other day somewhere (cant remember) sexual addiction is often the act of having sex and getting no emotional satisfaction thus going back for more to try to attain those emotions that they didnt receive before, and the cycle goes on and on.

You think that "friend with benefit" sex commonly leads to sexual addiction? To me it sounds like mutual masturbation, where the other person is used as a sex toy.

don't listen to other... find what suits u... however, try to avoid guys who don't want relationship but just sex... because if u r not one of those people, u will difinetly find urself taken advantages of...