Hi,I recently asked a girl who I really like if she wanted to be my girlfriend. We've been doing stuff together since the beginning of this year. I'm wondering if any girls out there can help me interpret her reply (which was unfortunately a rejection.)She basically said that she considered me a friend and was flattered that I asked. Also that I was a great guy and that I shouldn't change who I am (I'm relatively shy and she also said that I was good looking). She said that she'd come around to my house looking for me If I didn't do stuff with her anymore.I feel dejected and confused because:*If she thought I was so great, wouldn't she want to be my girlfriend?*She had an ex that she says was a real loser. But she went out with him and gave him a chance. That makes me feel like I'm missing something or that he had something that I didn't.*Is she looking for someone better than me?she still messages me regularly and says nice things that keep me from being bitter.Thanks for your interpretation.
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It sounds to me like she thinks of you as a good friend, and only that. All of the extra stuff was because she does genuinely value you as a friend, but in the romantic context it will go no further unfortunately.
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She likes you as friend material and not as a romantic interest. Sorry fella, move on.
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In reply to:If she thought I was so great, wouldn't she want to be my girlfriend?Because people don't take the best person to be their partner. They take people who are like them, or have certain idiosyncracies they particularly desire.In reply to:She had an ex that she says was a real loser. But she went out with him and gave him a chance. That makes me feel like I'm missing something or that he had something that I didn't.He probably did - but it might not have been a good thing. It might have been what made him a loser that made him attractive to her.In reply to:Is she looking for someone better than me?She's looking for someone different from you - not the same thing at all.
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Thanks for the replies.Ah well, she still calls me and sends me text messages. I guess I should be happy with that. Better to be regarded as a close friend than to be despised.
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EXACTLY RIGHT! Dam, I wish I was giving myself the advice I gave you like 6 months ago.