Well ive been going out with my g/f for a year and 8 months and i feel that our relationship cant continue the way they are. I still love her but our relationship has been counterproductive in other aspects of my life. I've had a long running self esteem issue that i'm just starting to get under control and i have found that i have only been with her so long because i was afraid of being alone and afraid of the confrontation when i broke up with her. Ive been forcing our relationship for so long, even though i know that i should have broken up with her on over a dozen different occasions. I now see that it eventually has to happen and now is the time for it. I need help with what to say to her though. This is my my first g/f and i don't want to hurt her even though it is inevitable. I know she doesn't see this coming because i've let on that everything is just fine for so long. I want to be able to explain to her that this was built up over time but i didn't have the balls to do anything about it because i was afraid of being alone, but only in more appropriate terms. Any advice on what to say or how to say it would be greatly appreciated because i am not the greatest linguist.
I need help breaking up
you can cry all you want to,
i dont care...
t break up, its unpractical. Make her break up
Just act all stupid and retarded and when she says she
s gonna break up just make a stupid face and dont say anythin`. Problem solved
First on all don't listen to him, that was the dumbest thing he could have said (well not the dumbest 'cause I've seen worse). What you really need to do is talk to her. Sit her down and explain how you feel and that you really don't think that your relationship is working out and that you feel you guys need a break. Let her know that it has nothing to do with her. You don't need to stay in a relationship you don't feel comfortible in, and you shouldn't have to. There never is a way to let someone down easy, no matter what you do, she may end up being hurt even when you don't mean to do it. Just break it to her as easy as possible, and just explain your reasons for doing so. It's going to be hard, but the longer you put it off sweetie, the more miserable it'll make you. Just be as gentle as you can and I wish you the best of luck. ^_^ </font color>
<span style="font-style: italic">things we've learned from the movies - - when they're alone, all foreigners prefer to speak English to each other....
It's my experience that honesty is always best. You are a nice guy to consider her feelings and that is the way it should be. I would suggest that you consider taking the blame for the breakup. Insist that she is all that any guy could ever want and she is much too good for you considering everything that is going on in your head at this time. Perhaps a test break is something you might consider unless you are absolutely sure that you don't want a relationship with her ever again. How are you going to feel when you see her with another guy? This will be a test of exactly how you feel about her. Regardless it is best that you do what you have to do at this time...good luck!
Uh, did you just, in one post, suggest he be honest and then tell him to lie to her? Like, be honest, but then give her some bullshit trite lines we've all seen in movies a million times? That's ridiculous.
Serious, honesty is good, and by honesty I mean telling the truth. Say you don't want to date her anymore, if she asks why, tell her your reasons. Note, when telling the truth there's always two ways to tell it, there's the nice way, then there's the asshole way. Do it the nice way.
fuck her best friend
i need help, im 15 and im going out with a senior. and i guess i didn't really know what i was thinking when i said yes. and i got to know him better and he's just not really the kinda guy i like. that sounds horrible i know but we dont really have ne thing in commen. like he doesn't drink or ne thing and i accidently called him when i was drunk, i didn't realize what i did till the next morning. and also hes never home he's always at work and we can never find time for eachother.and then when school starts, im not aloud to do ne thing during the week cuz my parents are gay. and i dont see how that could work out.
is that good enough reasons? :confused:
> im not aloud to do ne thing during the week cuz my parents are gay
I know one set of gay parents, and they don't seem unusually strict. Or is "gay" just easier to type than "assholes"?
It sounds like you're pretty immature, so I really don't know why you agreed to go out with someone even older than you. He sounds a lot more responsible than you, so maybe he'd be a good influence. But for his sake, if you really don't want to be with him, you need to tell him in a nice way that the relationship is not working out for you, and that you want to split.
<i>Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.</i> -- MLK
ya sry i was just to lazy to write assholes. sry. dont judge me to quickly you dont even know me. but thankyou for the advice.