i am 18 - and i love sex and being with someone else... im always masterbating, and i am an attractive girl. but, when it comes to kinky stuff, and trying new things, i am so intimidated and scared i will perform badly and dissapoint. how do i get over that?
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Being shy
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there is no magic way to get over this, you have to beleive in yourself that you are sexy, the men you are with obviously do, or they wouldn't be with you, let yourself go a little and enjoy yourself, you shouldn't be ashamed of your body, or your sexuality........you will make more of a bad impression by being scared, it will make you perform badly as you say...........You don't have to be a goddess in the bedroom at first, hell he will be turned on no matter what you do, if you are with a partner who you care about etc find out what he likes, it will make it better for him and will give you more confidence that you are pleasing him. Above all hon, love yourself, and enjoy it hugs
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Confidence really is the holy grail of sexuality. If you have it you'll do what makes you happy and no doubt your partner will enjoy it too.As far as getting confidence...well the best theory is that after leaving the aramathean region it probably was moving north to a smaller english monastary
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it's always freaky try new things for me too. Just remember you don't have to be perfect the first time and you usually get better afterwards.
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I'm also a very shy person, so when it comes to trying new "kikny" things I tend to shy off. But my BF and I have talked about things and what we would find exciting, and now we try and whole bunch of kinky things! It's really awesome. It just takes the special someone that you feel comfortable with.
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i thought it didn't matter to guys who they were with as long as they r satisfied.i beleived men only thought of them selves and their dick and their own happiness. but that me a big sourpuss after my marriage thats about all i came out of it with except for my two wonderful kids
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Wow you sure have a low opinion of men. It's not fair to generalize based on your experience with your ex.
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well until i am proven wrong .
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thats just crazy
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I'm sorry you had a bad personal experience, but your condemnation of a whole class of people (half the population) smacks of bigotry.
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maybe your dealing with the wrong men, obviously there are horrible god awful women out there that drain men dry so it swings both ways.
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hey i never said i had given up on guys. i am with one and he treats me a hell of alot better in everyway
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i guess so but i wasn't one of those kind of women i did what ever it took to try and make him happy when we were together
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I totally get that, my first serious relationship i was the one always working at it and being treated like dirt.
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thanks for the pm javai came out of a bad house and got into a relationship at the age of 14 married the guy at 19 and had had my first baby at 19 since i left he has tried everything to be mean but for the sake of my kids i remain nice. i just want him to mess up and everyone else to see it
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yikes im so sorry hun! What an asshole (ok i REALLY get your reasoning right now) RIght now im 20 (just turned in june) and I couldnt imagine something like that.,
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hey i am trin to think positive i just seem to do it a bit slower.i may be 36 but i can pass for 25 or so i have been told. everyone that sees me is shocked at the age of my kids they say i thought when u said u had kids they were like 8 or somethin hehehe and i have met a really nice guy now and my kids like him alot so that helps. and my kids are behind my supporting me to.now if i could just stop being so dam shy and make friends i am set lol
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In reply to: I'm also a very shy person, so when it comes to trying new "kikny" things I tend to shy off. But my BF and I have talked about things and what we would find exciting, and now we try and whole bunch of kinky things! It's really awesome. It just takes the special someone that you feel comfortable with. Exactly. I have a long distance relationship and we talk adnd talk and talk a LOT. We know everything about eachother. In the beginning we were kinda shy when it came to sex and fantasies and things we wanted to try, but when we finally came to one thing, it was like all the shyness was gone and we can just say things we wanna try and normally we do, and if we both like it we keep doing it. If we dont, but one does, it happens sometimes. But I really do believe that talking about it is a good way of getting there. And also, I dont say alcohol is good, but a little to loosen up is not bad, helped me over a few barrieres in my sexual life
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And also, I dont say alcohol is good, but a little to loosen up is not bad, helped me over a few barrieres in my sexual life
Exactly! LOL. My BF and I had too much to drink about 2 weeks ago (lord were we plastered) and we were in the middle of having sex and we both fell asleep LOL!! We got a good laugh about it the next morning. So yes too much alcohol, not a good thing! LoL
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Exactly! LOL. My BF and I had too much to drink about 2 weeks ago (lord were we plastered) and we were in the middle of having sex and we both fell asleep LOL!! We got a good laugh about it the next morning. So yes too much alcohol, not a good thing! LoL
hahaha, about the same thing happened to me. I was having sex with my fiancee and I was lying on my stomach and he was behind, anally. All of a sudden I started making weird npoises and he asked what was wrong, but I just opened my eyes and said 'nothing, really, Im just too drunk to feel how good this is and all I can feel is the matrass spinning'. So he stopped, laughed and just lied down next to me and hugged me instead :smile: