Another one of my friend's came up to me today and told me she had some type of disease or something sickness from when she had sex with this guy not too long ago. I felt really sorry for her and we spent the whole day together talking about it (even though I had to study for my driving test... I guess friends come first). I didn't really know what to tell her because I had always told her that having sex at such a young age wasn't a good idea but she always gave me that "you're younger than me so shut up" attitude. So I let her be. Now she's over at my house giving me the full load down on how her life is coming to an end and all that so I try and have some sympathy. But I still have that thought in my mind that's saying "at least it wasn't me" or "that's what you get for not listening". I know it's wrong for me to think these things but sometimes I can't help it. Usually I'm the one in my group of friends who's always the one to back out of there sex talks or I get on the defensive side when they talk about anybody who's a virgin is a child or scared, all that nonsense. So yeah I do sometimes get ALL the attention for being one of the only virgins in my group. It gets annoying when they say "oh you're 16 now and you haven't had sex yet, what's wrong with you",or "covering up those big boobs ain't gettin you nowhere so show some skin", and all that mess. It makes me feel small becuase I don't like showing myself like that. I try to stray away from giving them a talk about the consequences of having sex, though some who aren't really friends and just pop in and out from nowhere call me the little Christian virgin stacy. But then they do it and something bad happens. I don't like seeing my friends get hurt but I can't help but have that "I told you so" feeling. Am I wrong for feeling that way? Not all of them are like that but some are and it's just really bad at times.
The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.
- Moulin Rouge (love that movie)
hon, peer pressure is one of the hardest things when you're young to deal with BUT, not being a sheep is something that will be with you for all your life, and hopefully will keep you out of doing stupid things that you might live to regret.
I think its great you're still a virgin AND that you don't show off your body and look slutty. There is nothing wrong with being strong, nothing at all, and i for one am proud of you hugs
As for guilt, no you shouldn't feel guilty, your friend was stupid and is paying for her stupidity, that might sound harsh but thats the reality of it. I think i would feel just the same in your position, and have been in the same position, but in different circumtances. The choices you make in life are your own, she made a mistake, you didn't, there should be no guilt involved, don't be so hard on yourself.
You're a great girl, and if you were my daughter i would be very proud to be your mum.</font color>
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dont feel guilty for wanting to tell your friend "i told you so". She brought it upon herself and now she is paying for it. Stay strong and dont let peer pressure force you to do things you know you will regret later on. If it makes any difference my girlfriend was a virgin before she met me, she's 23. I think she is a really strong person for holding back this long. There arent any other girls i know that are still virgins most i knew lost it when they were in high school. Anyways back on topic, screw everyone else who tries to talk down on you. They are not your true friends if they degrade you for wanting to take care of your self and your body.
In a few year you'll look back at the thinks your peers pressured you to do and you'll roll your eyes. Just be strong. Be yourself. Do what you think is right.
> having sex at such a young age
Young people are often too immature to deal with the emotional issues and pregnancy and STD risks, even if they think they're all grown up.
But, unless you're Bill Clinton, you have to realize that sex encompasses more than intercourse. Oral sex is also sex, and can spread STDs. Even hand-on-other-person's-genital sex is not completely risk-free.
<i>Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.</i> -- MLK
Yeah, ur friend did something stupid and yes you can feel bad for her, but going crazy thinking about the guilt of the situation isn't going help. Yes, it is good that you don't do anything like having sex at a young age, but unfortunately, you can't control what your friends do. So just calm down and try and help your friend as best you can.
"I'll hold you in our last moment
Don't let go, don't fight it
I'll hold you as the sky falls
Hold onto me and stand tall
As fire rains fro...