this is a very long and complicated story so i shall break it down into a few paragraphs. i was molested a lot in school and was very quiet around guys because of the bad experinces but my best friend and i have recently got to know this guy and the first time we properly went out of his shop and got to know him outside of him work i miraculously began talking to him and liking him but i was getting a lot of mixed signals. on one hand hes making a lot of physical contact by poking, of all things, and lots of body language signals were leaking that i could pick up but when he found out that im 16 and my friend is 15 he said he would go out with us if it werent for the age gap as hes 19.
the next visit and he is all over my friend, hugging her, poking her and using all the signals that were aimed at me last time and i get unintetionally blown off. now theyre going out and i know this is going to sound strage but my friend is too nice about it. she says she'll stop the relationship if its going to get in the way of our friendship cos we are basically each others lifelines which is all very well but if theyre not together then its because of me and id get guilty cos they make each other happy but if they are together it breaks my heart. ive decided to leave them to it for a while cos i dont want him finding out how i feel about him because its just gonna make things in their relationship awkward.
me and my friend made an agreement that we would be ok with us going out with the other ones ex on this occassion but would most guys be ok with that or would they just avoid the awkwardness of the situation? ive never felt this way about a guy before. hes just so genuine and friendly. he sent my friend a text about me saying that im too pretty to be single and he knows enough people that would fall for me in a heartbeat but im not sure if this could be translated as he wants to stay friends, nothing more or what? please help me. im getting really down about this. :frowning:
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Would a guy go out with his girls best friend?
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dating your best friend's ex is a no no. my ex is fucking my best friend right now and i want to kill them both.
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They were never together in the first place, though.Amy, the guy basically said he didn't want to date you, that he wanted to date your friend. He may be a moron with very bad taste, but it's not like he cheated on you. I agree with him that 15 - 19 is a bit of a stretch, but obviously he was full of crap.If your friend's happy with him, you should let it go. Just don't hang out with her when he's around.
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ok i have a story similar to yours, i really started to like this guy, but he liked my best friend of all time. He even came to ask me if he should ask her out, and i said that he should to what he want, even though all i wanted to do was slap him so he got it through his head that i wanted him. So then, my friend got in a fight with her parents when me and said guy were over and they went off into a room and were talking and stuff and it was tearing me apart...i thought he had liked me.... and then so after he left, my friend said that she wanted to be with him. i decided not to say anything because i didnt want to ruin things. but that night i cried until i was almost physically sick, and i decided i had to tell my friend. she realized that i liked this guy more than she did, and she was amazing and understanding...the conclusion is that me and the guy have been dating for a really long time, and my best friend found another guy, and they are so in love...if you feel like you like this guy more than your friend does, maybe try to talk to her about that, because sometimes things are meant to be, like me and that guy...be strong love
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thanks for your opinions guys. well, they split up. my friends dad didnt want it to happen so she ended it cos it just wasnt going to work. now hes been texting me constantly and im meeting up with him for a coffee on tuesday but i dont think its going to amount to anything. ive accepted the situation as it is and whatever happens happens. if he makes a move ill discuss it with my friend before i do anything about it and im sure he'd understand if i said no. even if nothing happens between us hes still a good guy to have as a friend so i wont do anything to risk messing that up. id rather keep him close as a friend than scare him off by wanting to be closer. thanks again everyone :grin:
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I dont think thats a good attitude. I have often had the same girls as my buddies at different times.