I've been with my girlgriend since last year. We've had our rough patches but i like to think that it's a stable, happy relationship. Nevertheless, we find outselves fighting from time. She often tells me that we fight too much. I was wondering if this is true or not... and i don't exactly know what's 'normal' for the amount of disagreements in a relationship. To be totally honest - i'd feel stupid asking my friends so i was wondering if any of you could give me some idea of your experiences with disagreements in relationships in the past. Cheers.
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How often should a couple fight?
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Everything has its ups and downs. So as long as your not fighting enough to make you 'miserable all the time', and your generally happy most of the time, your good to go
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its really difficult to say. Some couples fight everyday but are just fine, some couples fight once a month and someone gets sued for assault. I guess it depends on each person and what their definition of fight is. Some people fight but deny its a fight. You just gotta take time out and ask yourself this: is the disagreement something that is serious enough as a reason for you guys to break up over? Is it something you can see yourself looking back on and laughing at? Or is it something that going to permanently harm you or your partner physically or mentally?
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I really like the way you said that. It makes a lot of sense. I know too many people who are miserable with their relationships but dont wanna get out of them because they have been together for so long.
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**If two people are in a relationship where there is no fighting then in my opinion, they arn't in a good relationship, as people are so different and can't agree all the time, no fighting would mean one of the partners was not being themselves, or don't think they can voice their opinions.
Everyone who spends a large amount of time with someone else, in whatever relationship end up disagreeing, whether an argument ensues or not. In my opinion arguments within a relationship are normal, however, its how you deal with them afterwards that counts. If your wrong, or said something out of line, don't be too proud to admit it, and apologise, i used to be with a guy who would NEVER say sorry for what he did..........and that was SOOO annoying LOL **
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I agree with what you say, I never used to argue with my gf's cos I didnt wanna damage my relationships, but now if I disagree bout somehting or somehtings bothering me I will say and I will argue if need be and now I'm much happier about my relationship cos I dont feel pushed around.
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we don't "fight" so much as disagree about something then ignore eachother for a couple of hours... then we talk about it calmly I guess we do this every couple of weeks.. most of the time if we disagree about something we can compromise
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Every couple is going to have their ups and downs. You spend alot of time together so of course you are gonna have some disagrements.But if you are miserable, then it's best to get out of hte relationship.