OMG!!!!!I'M FREAKING OUT!!!!!

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I'm 13 years old, and my mom wants me to be circumsized on the second week of august. I searched google and saw pics of a baby getting circ. I'm so freaked out now. What is circ. anyway? My mom and every1 else says it will make me grow tall. But I read on the internet, it says it's for turning into a man. I don't get it? What will they do during the circ.? My mom doesn't want me to do this thing where I'm sleeping during the circ. But If I don't it'll be very painful, especially for my age. How long does it heal? What happens if I don't get circ? What's foreskin and all these other words? Please help me!!!

It will make you grow tall??? That's a bunch of bullshit and they are saying that so that you won't complain and go through with it. Are you a Muslim? Do you have problems with your forskin?Please look at the Male Anatomy thread above.

Removing your foreskin won't make you tall or turn you into a man. Circumcision has to be your own decision. Your parents don't own your body. If you don't want to do it or are not sure, just refuse. I don't know what part of the world you're from, but here they can't force you to do it.

If, after having thought about it, you decide later on that you want to do it, you can do it then.

He's posting from Toronto, Canada.

Then the same should apply: You cannot be forced to have elective surgery.

I'm filipino and half spanish. What happens if you don't get circumcised? For filipinos it's really important, or else people will tease u and stuff.

What happens? Nothing. It's the way you are born and there is no necessity to get it cut off unless you have problems. Most of the worlds males do not get circumcised. If it's a cultural thing to get it cut off, then you'll have to take it up with your culture.

There are people who were born into the Jewish, Moslem, and American cultures who haven't been circumcised. Life goes on. A lot of Hispanic men are not circumcised.Who will see you naked anyway? Hopefully your parents won't make fun of you.As was said before elsewhere, once your foreskin is gone, it's gone for good.

a jew who wasnt circed? lol

Kamusta ka? Mabuti? I hope so. Here's my rather aggressive but sincere answer to all of your questions: stand your ground and refuse to have it done. You have a right to keep your foreskin. You will almost certainly regret losing it for the rest of your life, if only because you were pressured into having it done. You will also lose about 70% of the penis sensitivity you have now. You asked "What is a foreskin?" It's an important piece of tissue containing thousands of sensitive nerves itself and it keeps the head of your penis moist and sensitive. It's not just a flap of skin to be discarded like a wrapper. Who is going to see your penis anyway? Are you worried about other Pinoys calling you "pisok"? Forget about it (they will just be jealous). And the Filipino old wives' tale about uncut men having problems getting their wives pregnant is just that, a story. This is Canada and I know lots of Filipino friends here who do not circumcise their boys as babies and don't insist on it being done later as is the custom in the Phils and other countries as well. Circumcision is no way to begin puberty. Enjoy your foreskin and don't agonize about what others think. It's your penis. You have a long way to go before old age but it's well known that that, in middle age, having a foreskin makes it much easier to maintain your sex life as it it allows the head of the penis to remain sensitive. You can always get circumcised later as an adult if you wish but I bet you won't. Sorry for the blunt tone of this reply. Don't mean to be rude. Just want to give you support so you can stand up for your rights. Be nice to your Mom. She means well but you stay firm and tell her you are a Canadian as well as Filipino and things are different here. That's the way you will move on from being a child and become a man. Concentrate on your studies at school and on your sporting activities. Send me a personal message from this site if you have more questions or worries. I'll be glad to help you some more if you wish. OK? Mabuting kapalaran (Good luck).

I know someone whose father is Christian and whose mother is Jewish (so he meets the Talmudic definition of a Jew), and who considers himself Jewish, and who married a Jewish woman and lives in a town with a large Jewish population with his two Jewish daughters, but who is himself not circumcised. And everyone is happy.

ahh that makes sense now

If you dont want it dont do it. why would your mom be making a decision about your penis anyway its not her body. tell her youll get a circumcision if she does. haha

What I don't understand is why mommy waited until NOW. She could've had it done when you were a baby.

thats a very good point, why couldnt she wait until you wouldnt remember it happening?

Thats what i'm sayin! If it is soo important to your culture and your parents want you to get it done then they should have got it done for you when you were born. Then you wouldn't be worrying about it now!!!

In some (usually Moslem) cultures, it's traditional to circumcise boys at puberty.

Aaah. I guess I could see how that would make sense.What, if anything, can he really do though at that age? Mom sounds like she's already made up her mind. I see people telling him about the supposed evils of circumcision, but what good does this do? The kid needs an escape plan out of this situation.

Do you live in the philipines? I know that kids get cut around puberty in the phillipines but if you dont live there why do it? she cant make that kind of decision for you. whats gonna happen if you refuse it? shell kick you out or what. If your fine with your skin and dont want a cut you dont have to get it.

In some Filipino cultures (not all) it's customary to circumcise at puberty. It's not a religious custom, but a cultural one.However, in Canada a doctor who performed a circumcision on a 13 year old against his expressed wishes surely would be liable to serious criminal charges as well as civil damages.