I don't understand women

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For the past couple of weeks or so, I've been going out with a fantastic woman. She's smart, she's witty, she's a sports and fitness freak like me and even though the relationship had only just started, I really thought we had something good going on and that it was going to last. Earlier this week she apparently felt the same because she started talking about me moving in with her and started talking about the way things were going to be with us in the future. As far as I was concerned we were going great guns. Times together were filled with great laughs and great sex.Tonight, during dinner, she just called off the whole relationship saying that she just didn't think we were right for each other. We discussed it for the next couple of hours or so but she insists she won't change her mind on this and that the relationship is over.I really think I love this woman. Anybody got any advice?

if she just calls if off without giving you any reason, she might be cheating on you. Either that or you have some enemies that spread some nasty rumors about you and it somehow go to her.

i agreee with abc... that is probably the case.

Wow, that sounds really weird. Well the only thing I can think of is what the other guys said or she was having her period and lost her mind (happened to me), or maybe she's testing you. I have no idea. I don't even understand myself sometimes so.

Hehehe...well, at least I got a laugh from this disaster Smooches, so thank you for that I don't think she's cheating but of course it's impossible for me to be certain unless I want to start spying on her. I'm not yet angry or distraught enough to do that. I suppose that someone may have spread rumours about me or maybe even just told her about some of my wilder activities but I've already told her about some of the stuff I did and she didn't seem massively bothered.I guess I have to hope that it's just a hormonal thing (had problems there before) although I dislike thinking of women as some sort of alien species who turn completely irrational for a few days every month.

In reply to:although I dislike thinking of women as some sort of alien species who turn completely irrational for a few days every month. I get worse as i get older i swear i should chain myself up in a shed, come the time ofthe month, like a werewolf on a full moon................Did she give any other reason except that she thought you weren't right for eachother, i mean something must have changed in the few days, I think you deserve to know what and why from her.

In reply to: Did she give any other reason Nope. I spent about two hours trying to get her to explain and begging her to reconsider but all she said was that she'd had fun over the past 2 weeks but that it wasn't working. She just kept repeating this in a variety of ways.

**Then i suggest you leave her to it, given time and space she will maybe realise that you both had a good thing.........if not, then there seems little point in trying to get blood out of a stone *sigh* Sorry things went bad, hope she realises what she is missing. *hugs* **

Yeah, I'll give her some space and hope that she gets in touch. Now that I've had a night to sleep on it, it doesn't seem like such a big deal to me either. I'll miss her but it's not gonna ruin my life.

Maybe the reason why she wanted to end the relationship is because everyone has an empty space in their heart where their true love goes and maybe she didn't think that you were filling up that space. I really don't think it was because it was her time of month or because someone spread rumors about you!!! It could be that she believes in soul mates and she didn't think that you were the one for her!!!

maybe she was freaked out by the fact that she might love you... and thought that she should just stop it before it could escalate. i know ive broken up with a guy before because i was overwhelmed with my feelings for him and i thought that it was crazy that i felt this, so i thought it was wrong. we stayed in touch and ended up getting back together, so my advice is give her time to think about it and make sure to keep in touch.Best Wishes

wow. my gf also tried doing that exact same thing, she even told me she did. When we first hooked up like two months ago we fell in love with eachother, and she was fucking up and making me very mad, then a couple weeks ago she told me she was kind of on purpose so i would break up with her because she didnt want to get hurt in the long run.

Thanks for all the advice folks. I'll hang tough for a couple of weeks or so and see what happens and if she doesn't get in touch with me, I'll give her a ring and explore the situation again.

If she still says no, I can carry on living without her :smile: