Alright.. Ive posted about this topic before. I told this Girl im intersted in her awhile back. Since then she hasnt called but we've chatted online alot, im not planning to call because I think i made a serious contribution to make our friendship something more. Im not the type to chase girls but she seems very interested online but when i suggest hanging out she seems nervous. I think she wants to ask me over to her house but wants me to read her mind. She does make serious hints but if i suggest doing something shes always replies like this"Sure I'll hangout with anyone"That pisses me off because i cant tell if its a personal decision to be open to new things or that shes trying to play it off kinda cool. She really does seem intersted though as ive said im not the best at reading girls but she makes it obvious.My question, though i wasnt rejected i got the "i like you but need to know you more" response while, im pretty much doing 75% of the work to make this thing happen should i make her pick up her end or assume shes not capable of telling me how she feels yet? I know that it could work out, and very well ive given it alot of thought but i just dont want to look foolish for continuing to pursue her if shes really just bluffing. Our last serious phone call was a while back so I wont seem like a nagging dork.thanks all and any responses appreciated.JD
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Is she just really shy??
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Just next time you suggest hanging out and she gives you the "Sure I'll hang out with anyone" response, just say "great!" and make some plans. Kinda make it a tad bit obvious that you mean just you and her, but if she asks about inviting others, just say "actually, I was thinking that maybe just the two of us hang out". Just remember, the worst that she can do is say no.
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it seems like shes afraid 2 make it 2 personal or w/e anyone is a blanket statementsure id like to hang out for example would be much better im i gonna get that?
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**I think you should do something with her. Hang out... watch a movie at your house or her house... go out to eat... something that is just one on one. **
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im thinking about just calling and saying hey what are u doing 2day (or 2morrow depending obviously) to shake things up when I kno shes not doing anything. Its not that im nervous about calling her or saying anything, she already knows i kinda like her and all. I know shes somewhat shy, I think that in her opinon shes made moves (though subtle to me) but in her shyness were probably "bold" for her. I can appreciate some old school morals and dont want some swinging stripper for a g/f. I think if i ask her to do something and she says yes or atleast sets it up for another day ill have my answer. i feel like ive spent alot of time and energy on this and dont really want to say screw it but on the flip side of things i dont want to look like a fool trying to chase her down if she simply wanted to be friends, found out I liked her, was nice for awhile and is trying to get out of it now... thats the dilema...
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i used to be like that... really nervous and not willing to hang out with a guy alone. what i think is that she maybe just is still a bit uncomfortable with the idea of being with a guy seriously, and stuff like that. the best bet would be to come out and ask her what she really wants from the relationship, because you cant fix anything if you dont know whats up.
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Yah my girlfriend is like that, she wont hang out with me alone, she always has to have a girl friend come with, i mean me and her always go into a seperate room but she always wants a girl to come with her(just to the house). And it really pisses me off
