I have a friend who cuts. When I go visit her, I have to take away all her sharp things so she cannot harm herself, but she still gets new cuts. Any ideas on strange items she may be using?
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How do people cut?
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mostly razors
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knife, razor, piece of glass, sizzors, fork, or any other sharp objects. Most of the cuts are done on the arms, thys, or wrists Some people cut on their stomic or genitals. did ur friend tell you?
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Oh, we find our ways.. To be honest, what you're doing probably isn't helping. If she's desperate enough, she'll find a way to hurt herself, whether it's cutting or something else. When I haven't been able to find a blade before, I've burnt myself with hair straighteners or overdosed on pills.. anything to take away from of the mental or emotional pain I was feeling. Try talking to her about it instead, although don't push it too far.. give her time to open up to you. Hope that helps xx.
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heartsickgirl is right, what you're doing by taking away everything really isn't helping. my sis was a cutter for about a year and a half, and she would use anything from a knife or razors to a needle or even toe nail clippers. by taking stuff away, it makes them feel that you don't trust them either, which is one reason they may actually be doing that to themselves. the best thing that you could do, would be to just show that you know what they're doing, and just look them in the face and tell them you're there if they need to talk about any of it.
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I agree, though I told myself long ago I wouldn't do that I know many people that do and what there saying seems to be the best method.
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my ex gf cuts weekly and has the worst scarring ive ever seen on a person. she uses razors mostly. you are not helping your friend by taking away her blades, theres always more where they came from. your friend needs serious help. if the parents dont know you should tell them, or write them an anonymous note. your friend is in serious trouble if they are resorting to cutting as a coping mechanism for a very serious problem and deep painful issues, which are deeper and more ugly than any cut can ever be. get them help now!
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Well, i have been cutting for almost two weeks so I'm not real deep in it all. But, it does relieve the emotional pain i'm feeling. I think that you should talk to your friend and STOP TAKING AWAY THE OBJECTS!! That would only make her not trust you, and feel like you don't trust her. All I really need is just someone to talk to. I feel like a can't talk to my friends because I feel like they would either make a joke of it all, get really scared and not talk to me, or just not care (yeah some friends eh?). And, I'm sure that if I had a boyfriend, he would do the same thing as my friends. I feel like my parents would just get mad and not talk to me anymore.
When I cut, I usually use a compass or a pin, so my cuts aren't all that deep. But like I said, I think it's great that your friend has someone like you who cares and that she can talk to.
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I'd quite like to see this thread locked ,Moderators?
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Because????
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its gives people ways to cut, but u now as well as i do if they are going to self harm they will find a way.
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I really don't think locking or deleting the thread is going to change anything. If a person is going to cut, they are going to do it regardless of this post.
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i used to sharpen my finger nails to points nobody can really take those away from me MUAH AH AH AHHHH ...boy im really sadd
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In reply to:i used to sharpen my finger nails to points nobody can really take those away from me MUAH AH AH AHHHH ... O yes they can.
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look i was a cutter and i used anything.she might be using glass,broken cds,knives,or any thing u cant make her stop she has to figure it out on her own . its not kool to cut u get all these scars and ppl dont like seeing it.
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Letter opener....
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my friend has a cutting problem and for awhile she told me they were cat scratches, finally she fessed up.. and i try to help her in everyway but still after talking over her problems, when she gets upset or mad she goes downstairs in the basement and cuts! i can't stop it and im afraid one day she's going to go to deep.. so please someone give me some advice thanks, JKS
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Why cutting? I used to harm myself but it wasn't just cutting. There seems to be some significance with cutting. Someone here posted that it was normally done because the victim (for want of a better word) could not control their emotional pain. So, they'd cut and cause physical pain which they could control.I would cut (generally in inconspicuous places like chest, stomach etc, but sometimes hands, legs etc), or burn myself (any way) so I could say I'd done it cooking, or ironing, or I'd lash/whip my legs with electical cables. Wearing long pants noone ever knew. I think I did it because of guilt, I felt much better after I'd done this sort of stuff, as though I'd paid back some kind of debt. I did other stuff too but the point is it's probably not just cutting (in my case at least). Or am I wrong?So I think it's not always cutting. Anything really.