Hating this

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I am happy where I live, but I down right hate my father. I moved away from his house when i was younger and I have not talked to him since. He has never helped me with anything, like college and such. I mean I need a new vehicle and my cannot afford it and my sister who is loaded is not offering any help. I hate how this is how it is. I want to rip his guts out.

Why do you need a vehicle?

So I can get around and go off-roading. I live in an area where everything is spread out, and i would like to take whatever vehicle back to Purdue with me. I mean I am not proud of my car at all, I love it, but it is not so presentable.

that is truly a shame
My dad died rather prematurely about three and a half years ago and I miss him dearly.

and i am jealous. My two older sisters got so much when they were in high school and college. I mena my eldest got a new car for college and my other sister got a new car in high school. My new vehicle was 1989 jeep. I love and I appreciate, but i want something better. I am the only one in my family that plans on providing for my mom when i get out of college and i have my degree and stuff. I mean my mom barely makles anything and when she goes to visit my eldest sister, my mom pays for everything (LA it is expensive) and my sister puts up no protest. I dunno, just a lot frustration.

I mean what gets me the most is that he has not helped at all. I have had no father figure...all through high school he never even attempted to come to my football games. I mean no support or anything, and he is off making millions of dollars and he cannot help his first child through college or help him get a car or anything. What a great dad.

first child?

yeah my two sisters are from different fathers.

So your father bought new cars for your sisters?

well truely if your father is making that kind of money and not helping his children through school.. shame on him.But you are doing the right thing by still going to school and it's going to make you a stronger person.

no he disowned me...when i told him i wanted to move to my moms he said he would never talk to me again. I mean I did not like the city. I aws sick of living there so shielded and protected. But I mean his first son, and he said that. It has not affected me much until recently...My mom bought my sisters their cars. I mean I want to pay my mom back, like now I give remaining money I have to pay for things like gas, grocieries or whatever. I am the only sibling to do that, and I do not make any money at all.

Sorry about your family situation. It seems pretty unfair, the way your mom is treated by your sisters, and your father sounds like a nut job.> My new vehicle was 1989 jeep. I love and I appreciate, but i want something better. I didn't have a car until a few months after I graduated college. No money...I'd had to have stolen one. I was driving a 1993 Honda Accord (OK, it had a spoiler) until 2 years ago, so I can sympathize, but I can't empathize.

He said mom bought the girls cars. Apparently the financial situation was better then.Well be thankful that your car at least runs. Jealousy eating away at you is not going to help.

well as far as the running part. My stepdad uses my Jeep I would tell him not to, but I am not going to get into an argument and fist fight over that. But he always abuses it. Everything he owns he abuses. He has a cameo broken, he broke it getting on it to hard, the 67 corvette broke blew the motor and tranny starting in 4th gear and flooring it, the Van is just a car waiting to go to the dump, not to mention the volkswagen rabbit that does not run, and he breaks his bikes as well. SO I mean this is why I want a better car b/c then I can say no my car is too nice to go get shit loaded into it b/c that is what happens now.

Oh here since I hate him so much I will give away some of his info. His name is John Misha Petkevich, former olympic skater, announcer for ABC, for co-CEO of Robertson and Co, and now new owner of Petkevich & Partners. Look all that up. He makes tons, but apparently that means more than i ever did.

Seems like a spiteful man to disown you. It's unfortunate but I don't see what you can do about it.

yeah...that is what i thought.

That is really sad. Sometimes people don't handle success well with respect to their personal life, especially if they're emotionally underdeveloped. It sometimes brings out the worst traits in people. I can understand how you feel, but as sdp said, hanging on to the bitterness and anger is corrosive. It would be great if your father would come to his senses and appreciate the value of a relationship with his child, and maybe he will someday, but don't expect it. Consider it a bonus if and when he does.Can you get a job when you're not in school, and/or a part-time job when you are in school?

oh i am. I just took up a job as a salesperson at Nordstroms (i was a stock person). I am going to need the vehicle soon b/c i have found a lot of good deals, and they are not going to wait. I would gladly pay my parents back. But yeah I do all i can to help out.

It sounds like your father could learn a thing or two from you.