ive only had sex for a total of 4-5 times. everytime we have sex, ive always cummed really fast. when i start fucking her, ill cum within a minute or two, but then i put on another condom and we go again. this time, i can go for over 5 minutes. i dont understand why i do this, and whenever i feel myself about to cum, i take my dick out, but then i still cum. she always tells me to go faster, but then i cum faster so i dont go too fast. is there a way to keep fucking her fast and hard, but still be able to control when you want to cum? by the way, i am uncut if that makes any difference...
How do i last longer?
First of all, why no condom the first round? I don't understand that. I'm sure you know this, but condoms protect against STDs, including HIV and KIDS.
Does this happen when you masturbate as well or do you hold out a lot longer? You could just be overexcited while having sex and you blow your load quickly. While I've never been in this situation, I've had friends who have. Try masturbating a couple hours before you expect to have sex. This could help since it might make you a little less sensitive. This worked for a friend of mine.
If you're able to hold out when you masturbate, try 'edging' (getting close to orgasm then stopping) when you masturbate as practice.
I've heard of people using two condoms to make them less sensitive.
Reading through thatdude's post, he says that he would put on another condom and go again. I think that implies that he had one on the first time.
While the rest of your post gives pretty good advice, it is not a good idea to double up on the condoms. Where two is generally twice as good as one, this is not true with condoms. The failure rate goes up with two and you sure don't want that.
D'oh! I read through it again. My mistake. I didn't notice 'another'.
(This heat is making me crazy)
Since you know you have a pretty quick 'retool' time, why not do oral w/your gf for the first orgasm, then go again.
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The first few times I didn't last that long either, maybe ten minutes or so, but I've managed to figure out how to last really long...average of thirty to forty minutes, longest just over an hour. A few things that have worked for me is to tell myself over and over again "This is boring." I just repeat it in my head like a mantra. When that starts to work too well I stop and get back into it, but return to it if I feel like I'm about to cum. I've also, I'm sure this will sounds weird, sometimes done math in my head. I'm shitty at math, so I just stick to adding, like double digits at most, and that seems to allow me to last much longer because it is something so far removed from any sexual thought. My friend swears by relaxing his ass, and he also says he has tried to picture his parents having sex before during sex, but that just seems drastic and gross. Mostly it's just a state of mind you have to reach. Oh, and another thing that has worked is I tell myself, "I want to cum right now." I'm not sure if that'll work for you or not but it has for me before, like reverse psychology I guess. Hope that helps. Happy humping.
Practice makes perfect.
You need to spend some time with yourself doing some serious edging. Get yourself a nice hardon. Add some gel and begin stroking off until you find yourself almost coming then back off. Right off.
Repeat the procedure until your dick knows that you are in charge not the dick.
I've learned to masturbate for a few hours before I dump my load. I'm totally content then.
Try this with your girlfriend.
Again. Who's in charge. Do whatever you have to do until you find yourself wanting to shoot. At that time, pull out.
Move down to her vagina and eat her out for about 20 or 30 minutes or move to her breasts.
Remember to focus on her, bringing her to an almost climax then pull back.
If she's into it, rim her ass while she fondles her breasts and pinches her nipples.
I always make sure I've pleased my woman first before I dump my load.
My girlfriend really appreciates that. After I've taken care of her and dumped my load, she rewards me by giving me a most excellent blow job at the end, just to keep the knob polished.
Have a good one. Let me know if you need more info.
Just think of Rosanne Barr or Rosie O'Donell , that should do it!