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    Africa

    i cant talk to anyone about this out loud. i just couldnt bring myself to do it. i have an amazing, amazing supportive friend, i told her i was bi curious and had experimented before anyone else. i feel i can tell her anything, but with everything there are limits and my fear is that i will tell her and shell never see me in the same way again. i do often get the feeling that this is just my mind fucking with me. when i brush it off i feel normal for a while, but it tends to creep back. i just need to know that i dont want to have sex with my family. i need to be sure of that. the idea of it repulses me, i would never do it, but even having that want implies serious stuff, yknow. i just cant feel normal and i cant be around my mum and feel normal. i dont want to be a freak. can anyone recommend any method of theraputic thinking, or meditation, or anything that could ease this?

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    Africa

    hi again everyonea while ago i voiced an issue i was having, that bothered me then, and is now bothering me worse than ever. basically, my brain will make me visualise anything i desperately dont want to. it can be all sorts of things, mostly mental images of a sexual nature of friends, and family. obviously its quite disturbing, but the more i try to not think about it the worse it gets. one minute itll be all i can think about, and really freak me out, and the next minute it wont seem like an issue. but its always there, and i want to rid myself of it. its mostly, to be honest, and this isnt some kind of weird post im getting my kicks from, mental images of my mom of a sexual nature. these appear most, i imagine, because obviously that is the thing i would least want to picture. but its gotten so bad now i cant feel normal around my mom. i dont like to be around her because i feel like a freak. i know i dont want to have sex with my mom, or sister, but im naturally an obsessive person. this is really getting to me, and i just want to know the best way to get through it healthily. any advice, i would really appreciate. keep in mind this is not a joke and its seriously affecting me now i mean im always obsessing about something, theres always something eating away at me inside and making me miserable and keeping me awake, but id prefer most things to this. -ak

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    Africa

    thanks for the replies everyone,ill go into further detail.my best friend at the time was the guy i did it with. two guys who, at the time, where good friends of mine, but hate me now, for various reasons (but im glad to be rid of them, because i have a small group of some awesome friends now i wouldnt trade for anything) where in the room. we where all naked- we decided to walk around my friends room naked and compare dicks, etc, to experiment. i know, not the typical teenage thing to do on a saturday night, but well they where getting naked so i thought i might as well follow suit. anyway, ironically enough one of the guys who has been telling people about this was playing with my ex-best friends dick as well at the time (but im not ex-friends with that guy because of the experience, that is a different story all together) and i guess, if everyone finds out about this and starts making fun of me i could expose him as well, but i dont think anyone would believe me. another thing worth mentioning is the other guy spreading this around was jacking off in the bed i was sharing with him. i thought it pretty strange they where telling people what me and my friend did together, when they werent that far off from having done it themselves. Still, i felt ok about it until i thought everyone would find out, then i suddenly felt all uncomfortable about it. its just, if people at my school find out, i will be friendless. i know, who needs friends that cant accept you for who you are- but i live in a very homophobic part of the world and thats just the way things are. Also, those friends i mentioned earlier, the people who dont go to my school and i see on the weekends, if they found out they probably wouldnt desert me, but im terrified that theyll see me in a different way.still, its worth mentioning that i lost my virginity a few days ago! and in case your wondering it was with a girl, lol.sorry for the long post.

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    Africa

    thats the thing, it wasnt planned. we where all in an experimental mood- we where all just walking around this guys house naked. i didnt say to the guy it happened with 'take your cock out, i wanna give you a handjob' the opportunity was there and i just kind of went for it i guess.

    im just finding it hard to feel comfortable with it, yknow.

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    Africa

    hi everyone, sorry i havent been on in so long, life has been very hectic lately. I realise that on this board i seem to ask for a lot of help and not seem to give a lot, so normally i wouldnt ask, but this is really getting to me.Okay, earlier this year, i had my first real sexual experience with a guy. Ive made out with guys before (only while drunk though, to be honest) compared penis sizes with guys, etc, but this time i gave a handjob, and i was sober. However, the other people who where present at the time have told some people about it now. Ive been able to cover for it so far, but if this got out it could ruin my life, you know? At the time, i thought, fuck it, i want to experiment, ill go for it. I was being pretty open minded at the time. But now i keep feeling all weird about it and obsessing about it. I dont know how i can become okay with this. Its not a very common thing to happen either, so theres no one i know i can really relate to. anyway if anyone could offer some advice id be really grateful. thanks.-ak

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    Africa

    i was on my friends computer, he has remixed several songs, taking the music out of fall out boy and replacing it with drum and bass, stuff like that, but he couldnt remember the website where he did it. Does anyone know of a site like this? Preferrably NOT one where you have to download the software and buy the songs and theyre in a unique format...i hate those sites

    much thankies

    -ak

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    Africa

    im like you- i overly think things. you might as well embrace it because believe me, nothing short of smoking a whole bunch of pot will get rid of that. people may disagree, but a lot of the time its people who see that you have your own views and feel threatened by that. people respond to confidence and individuality in negative ways sometimes. My friend was saying earlier how she would like to help poor kids and rape victims and i said 'i dont lose any sleep over it'. May have seemed insensitive, but honestly, those are my views and i didnt change them to impress her. Just like you shouldnt change anything you think to please people. thats all i have to say =]

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    Africa

    okay i dont have an awful lot of close friends, but the ones that i do have are all not virgins now. my best friend lost his, and he kind of looked up to me cause i knew more about sex, but now hes had it its like reversed yknow. ive only had one sloppy handjob as far as experiences go, ive only had one girlfriend. i have confidence issues with women i guess, and this is making me extra insecure. i know the whole thing about whats wrong with being a virgin and blah blah blah, but this is getting to me.

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    Africa

    native americans have the biggest cocks, statistically. Black guys are second highest, white guys are average. Asians tend to have smaller dicks. Its not racism, its proven fact. Thats what i read in some survey.

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    Africa

    yeah...all european blood [half irish quarter austrian quarter polish] and i live in england

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