brewOriginally Posted By: CockRockerBecause it gets bunched up right behind the head and it cuts blood circulation off.(My head gets like a darkkkkk red) + If I put it in a Vagina like that, it'd be painfull.
OK, ouch, that sounds really tight. I agree, a bit of stretching is what's called for here.
I read the OP to mean that he wanted to stretch his foreskin right back down his shaft, to look like a circumcised penis.
Don't try to do it yourself! The last thing you want is an infection or permanent scarring there.
See a doctor first - the great thing about doctors is that they know who to refer you to. It will probably be a very quick and simple visit to a clinic, but you might need a doctor's referral to get an appointment.
Toenail clippers are NOT cool!
Yep, you can have circumcision errors fixed up easily.
You need to see a doctor, explain to them exactly what is bothering you, and work out whether the NHS will do it or whether you should go to a private clinic. There's a good chance that the NHS will have a long waiting list, or that the doctor might consider it non-essential. If so, try to explain how unhappy it is making you.
It's important to be happy with your penis - if you don't get much of a result with one doctor, see another.
6) the female durring orgasm releases a fluid in order to keep the sperm from being disolved in the acidic utero, since it's not being released it would be almost impossible for the sperm to get to it anyway.
Not quite sure what you're getting at here, but if you are trying to suggest that a woman needs to have an orgasm in order to conceive, then you are incorrect. Sperm in the vagina can lead to pregnancy, orgasm or no orgasm.
But the OP in this case has nothing to worry about, your first 6 points are good.
smartiepants, girls don't actually take longer to come than guys - it is about the same - once properly aroused that is. It just takes longer for girls to become aroused in the first place (around 15 minutes of sexy thoughts rather than 1!)
When you are fully aroused, whether male or female, it usually only takes about 2-3 minutes of masturbating to come. So that's the science of it - the reality of doing it with a partner is very different.
When you are younger, it is harder to come with another person. It's new, it's a bit weird, you feel self-conscious. You are worried about not performing, or that your partner is getting tired and might suddenly stop. What if I come too soon? What if I take too long? What is she thinking? Is she going to tell her friends? You get the idea. The mind can start wondering, you begin to feel anxious and that kills sex.
The first thing you need to do is get really comfortable talking about sex with your guy. Talk about how often you masturbate, how you like to do it, how long it usually takes etc.
Then get him to show you how he does it. Not only because you might learn what kind of speed and pressure he likes, but you want to get him comfortable enough to come in front of you. Assuming he can come when he is by himself, then he should be able to come in front of you too. If not, you know it is psychological, and that can be fixed with a bit of practise.
A lot of guys have issues coming in front of a girl - they might feel that it is rude or dirty, that it might offend you, or simply that it is too personal and intimate to show you. It sounds weird, I know, but trust me. Remember, his orgasm is his most private, intimate moment, and for most of his life he's probably been doing it solo, behind closed doors, doing everything he can not to be seen by anybody. It's quite a big change to suddenly do it in front of someone else.
Assure him you love to see him come, you love his semen, you are not going to be offended by it - but don't pressure him to come. Make him feel secure and free to enjoy himself, not a trained monkey expected to do his trick.
Are you comfortable masturbating to orgasm in front of him? If not, why not?
Once you are both comfortable bringing yourselves to orgasm in front of each other, it is a fairly simple process to become more and more involved in each other's orgasms. You can lick him while he masturbates, and even take over when he's about to come - and he can do the same for you. In no time, you'll both be making each other come easily.
The fact that he can orgasm inside you is a great start, lots of guys can have problems with that too, so this is really only a minor detail.
Have fun working it out!
Just a side note regarding antibiotics - if you didn't already know.
It is REALLY important to keep taking the full course, even if the problem seems to have gone away. Otherwise, the bug can still remain in the body, and when it comes back it will probably have built up a resistance to the antibiotics and therefore be far worse to deal with.
The full course is designed to completely kill of the last traces of the bug.
Once the foreskin is behind the head, you can clean it, have sex, receive oral, paint faces on it, anything you like. That's it's job - to cover the glans when it is not in use, and to get out of the way when it is.
I would say that as long as you can see, and access, the whole skin surface of the penis (ie, the glans, the inside of the foreskin, the outside of the foreskin and the shaft), then you are fine. If you can't retract far enough, and it leaves a fold of skin ON the glans that you can't get underneath, then you need to do some gentle stretching until you can, or see a doctor if it becomes a problem.
It is normal for the foreskin to bunch up behind the glans, not on it.
I don't think there's anything strange going on here - lots of guys can't stretch their foreskin all the way back down their shaft. Ouch! It isn't really supposed to work that way.
As long as you can get your foreskin back and forth along the glans, then it's working perfectly. If you want to stretch it right out, that's up to you, but of course the frenulum will pull tight sooner or later.
I don't think there's any need for surgery or stretching exercises here - unless you REALLY REALLY want to pull your foreskin all the way back?
If so, why?!
Well I'm not a virgin, and I'm not ashamed of not being a virgin. I like having sex, it's nice.
I don't want to tell anyone else what they should or shouldn't do. However, I think it is important to remember that having sex with someone you love will ALWAYS be special, whether you're a virgin or a prostitute. That's just the way it is.
Beware of putting sex on a pedestal - it can't possibly live up to such enormous expectations, especially if both partners are inexperienced and have been anticipating it for their entire adolescence and young adulthood. It will more likely be uncomfortable, awkward, embarrassing, and possibly even disappointing.
As long as both of you can communicate and are happy to accept that, then fine - but I'm always a bit concerned by hearing about people who expect their first time to be on a perfect wedding night with the perfect virginal partner and how the fireworks will go off in a soft-focus hollywood scene. Life isn't like that.
If you are putting it off because you are not ready, then you are absolutely doing the right thing. If you are putting it off for any other reason, then I would question your philosophy.
Make your decisions, be true to yourself and proud of it, but don't spend your life with your head in the clouds either, as that leads to disappointment. Enjoy life for what it is today, not for what you wish it to be in the future.
You went overboard a long time ago,
wearing a condom has nothing to do with being a man.
Maybe responsability but that comes with both genders.
It is his responsibility to wear a condom, not hers. Any type of contraception that a woman can take involves surgical implants or daily drugs that can really mess up her system.
If a woman is willing to let you have sex with her, step up to the plate, be a man, and wear a condom without being asked.