Never argue with an idiot -- he will drag you down to his level, then beat you with experience.
I am deployed to Iraq, where I live in a small room in a trailer with another soldier. I frequently masturbate after he has gone to sleep, as he has to wake up before me and we cannot see each other directly from the way the furniture is situated. He tells me that he knows when I masturbate because my hand (and dick) cast a long shadow on the wall from the light of my desklamp and he says that it keeps him awake just knowing that I am stroking my bone about ten feet away. Usually I wait until at least half an hour after he turns off his light to start, but he says he can sense it and it wakes him up and he just lays there staring at the shadow of my hand sliding up and down my shaft. He says he can even see when the come shoots out and I climax, but says that he can't get to sleep if I am jerking off.
Should I stop? I have tried to wank at different times, like after he goes to work in the morning, but the urge just isn't the same then and the climax is always somewhat less fulfilling. I have tried to stop altogether only to find that I apparently masturbate in my sleep.
Since I am deployed, there are not a lot of places I can go to "handle myself" in private. I have spoken to some of the other guys and they all say that they do it in front of their roommate and that it is just "taking care of business" and "no big deal". That said, I admit the thought of masturbating with my roommate watching is a terrible turn-on, but it seems so wrong. But still, I can't just stop.
What would you do?
WD-40 or Marvel's Mystery Oil quiets the squeaks in my household.
What? Oh shit, sorry, talking about sexual lubricants, are we? Okay then.
Conditioners work well, as stated before. Recommend you get some K-Y liquid, Astroglide, or Wet personal lubricant, as all are water-based and will not erode latex condoms, will not cause pH imbalances and will not stain sheets or other household surfaces. Get a bottle, bring it into your house and voila! you have a household lubricant.
First, I know gay men who do not engage in anal sex--oral and mutual masturbation only. I was never one of them, but I have met several.
Second, the desire to marry has no bearing whatsoever on being gay. I know quite a few guys and gals who are married to their sexual opposite, but in fact, are quite gay. Some are bisexual, but that has little to do with genes or environment...it has to do with choice and appreciation for the human form.
I enjoy sex with men and women, but prefer women. One of my closest friends is gay and though he engages in sex with his wife, he does it more out of love for her than for personal or mutual gratification. He lusts after me and other men, not his wife. But he married his wife because he loves her and wanted to have children with her.
My wife knows about my sexual preferences and understands that I have an unusual appreciation for the human form, male and female. She has no doubt, nor do I, that I am attracted to her more than men, but the fact remains that I find strong sexual attraction to some men as well.
Your generalized statements about marriage are ignorant at best. Your bit about sticking things in a guy's anus is almost placebic in nature, as the raw feeling of another man's pulsing member in your rectum is nothing like any toy or other object, and can never be mistaken for the other. Men who engage in anal sex with other men enjoy the closeness, the animalistic nature of the experience, the dominance and submission. Simply sticking a dildo up your ass does not make you gay or bi.
Gay is nature, bi is choice.
Are you serious? My fiancee asked me once to have a threesome with a friend of mine -- she wanted a sandwich, but thought that my tool was too big for her backside. She asked me to ask a friend of mine and he jumped at the idea. Seeing her laying there with his cock embedded in her butt was one of the most erotic experiences of my life, and her watching me watch her got her off tremendously...knowing that I would allow her this bit of eccentricity and not getting jealous.
My wife (different woman) has asked me about the idea of including another female in our sexual forays, and she is extremely turned on by the idea of me screwing her friend while her friend goes down on her, of licking her friend's twat while I pound her friend in the ass and of using her strap-on to screw her friend while she blows me. I am open to the idea, of course, as a menage-a-trois is almost every man's wet dream.
Just make sure that you are both emotionally prepared to handle the act. If one of you has even the most remote apprehension about it, it could spoil the experience.
As for how to approach her roommate, assuming she is sexually liberated, simply ask her. I recommend using alcohol to loosen up the tongue a little and bring down some of the learned inhibitions that people tend to have about such topics. Have your fiancee share a bottle of wine with her roommate over a steamy movie and see what happens. I know I have been seduced several times over the years this way. If it pans out, great, but don't push the issue. Better to let it happen than to push too hard and destroy a friendship.
If your fiancee is open-minded enough to try a threesome, let it happen. If now is not the right time, use it later in your marriage to spice things up a bit. Figure my wife knew I liked anal when she met me 10 years ago, but just recently started getting into anal play...she explained, to keep things interesting. Another few years and we will look into including another party in our love life, but we are just not to that point yet.
Well, it kind of depends on what you eat and whether or not you keep yourself well hydrated. Good healthy come is sweet and salty, gooey and runny. It should slide down your throat without too much fuss. If the guy is poorly hydrated, it will be chunky and hard to swallow, sticking to the back of your throat and making you gag. Also a person who eats lots of whole foods and a well-rounded diet, the come should be sweet and a little salty.
A woman's come is mucus-based and much more like licking the snot running from your nose when you get cold. Albeit, it is a very sensual thing when giving oral sex, but its taste has more to do with their personal pH levels and the woman's musk scent than an actual universal taste.
If someone has a problem with the taste of come, either spit it out or try one of the various flavored sexual lotions/oils -- they tend to numb the tongue a little, but can lend the experience a little variety in flavoring.
Bi here as well. For looks, I need a man who is at least as physically fit and as big as me. I am an amateur bodybuilder and fitness competitor. I am 6'5", 235 lbs and usually maintain less than 8% bodyfat, so the pickings are slim, even in the Army. I like the shoulders, arms, butt and legs for bodyparts, a nice V shape to the torso, but they have to well developed below the waist, as well (legs). After looks, he has got to have charisma and charm, not be macho and bossy, but still masculine (femme guys make me sick). Oh, and of course, he has to have a sense of humor.
I like guys who are like me. It probably stems from the narcissistic side of me and reflects an underlying egocentrism, but that is what does it for me. I like big, masculine, muscular, intellectual guys with open minds and good personalities. A long, slender tool between their legs is great, too.
Okay, hero, answer this: after you dump a load in her twat, do you go down on her? Creme pie, anyone? Maybe showing her that eating your own come isn't so bad would persuade her to someday try it. Then again, maybe it won't. Either way, what does it really matter is she does or if she doesn't? Not to brag, but my wife and previous partners have had a hard time getting their mouths around my cock, much less sqallowing a mouthload of jizz. Not that it really matters, you see, as the act of swallowing should not define a relationship, sexual or romantic.
Someone else mentioned a good point, though. Changing your diet will make your man-goo taste better. Guys who eat junk food and drink beer and soda all the time have nasty, flat tasting come, whereas the health food nuts who eat a wide variety of fruits, vegetables, meats and other whole foods have quite tasty come. I have had both and would definitely take a healthy fitness-conscious fellow over a sedentary couch potato anyday, and not just because I would like the body better. Healthy splooge is much mosre palatable than the alternative.
My wife gags when I shoot too close to her mouth when screwing her tatas, but she enjoys knowing that she was the one who pleased me to that extent.
I would suggest you don't let it get in the way of a good relationship. If it's good _and_she won't swallow, maybe she ain't the right one for you.
I will say that the first month or two of my sexual activity as a teen, I used the hell out of some condoms...about 2 dozen a week, give or take. But after my g/f went on BC, we didn't bother. Little did I know at the time, but I was shooting blanks all along (found out my first year in the Army). Even with the STDs floating around out there, I still didn't use condoms very often with other women in the military, because we were a somewhat controlled group and got tested all the time for STDs. Hell, we carried our test results in our wallets!
Sometime later, my boys started making good swimmers, but in the meantime, the rhythm method worked quite well for many years. I would simply come inside, since I was shooting blanks.
Then I met my wife and the chemistry was right. You see, chemistry plays a lot in baby-making. If the woman's pH and natural immune system is hostile to the man's sperm, he may never get her pregnant. Lucky for me, my sperm was healthy and strong and she got pregnant our first time. Also lucky for me, I had not contracted some form of incurable STD. Those days are far behind me now.
Anyone who says that it feels the same with a rubber on must be a novice. Sheepskin condoms are more sensual than latex, but don't protect against STD's. I do advocate condoms for anal play, as there is nothing much more painful than getting an infection in the slit of your dick because some bad bacteria got into it when you had your jimmy up some girl's butt. But, if you choose not to follow my advice, you can still shoot off in her bowels without running the risk of getting her pregnant!
That's right, Lance. And if you have a hard time reaching all the way back there, you can use one of those G-spot vibrators, the ones with the bent or upturned end on it. Just make sure that when you insert it, you do it so that the curved end is pointing downward, so that it will press against your prostate. I usually find that simply wriggling it back and forth works better than actually turning on the vibrator, but I know of folks who do it that way with success as well. I just find that it seems to numb my groin with the vibe on.
Try your finger first so that you will know about where to position the vibrator and how far to push it in.
Yes, it is a unique feeling, but take caution when you do. Don't use soap or other soapy substances for lubrication and beware of chlorine, like in swimming pools. Soap will definitely irritate your glans if it gets into the head and soap and chlorine can kill the "good bacteria" in a woman's vagina and cause an upset in the body's pH balance, causing yeast infections and other such unpleasant things.
Also, beware of public waterlets (lakes, rivers, etc.) as the water may contain pollutants and/or harmful bacteria that can cause infections as well. And don't think that chlorine is going to kill off your sperm, either. If you ejaculate in her vagina, those little swimmers will be much too far inside of her within a matter of seconds for the chlorine to be effective as a contraceptive.
My recommendation: sex in the shower. True, it's a little harder to do it standing up, but you end up washing the jizz down the drain instead of soaking in it like you would if you were in the tub.
Okay, my $0.02