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    I agree with cool. If you decide to break it off, at first it's likely that it will be very tough without him and you feel like you will never be okay again. But you WILL be okay. Time does heal, just hang in there.

    And remember, you don't need to make it harder for yourself than it really is. When/if you're no longer together, try to think of other things than him, don't go into thinking about the great memories related to him or looking at the photos of you two together. That would only make it worse. Do things you like, find something new and interesting to focus your life on.

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    But he turned out to be an alcoholic and I left because the pain of watching him poisoning his life and mine was just not worth it anymore.




    Oh... I'm so sorry to hear that.

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    My point is, if someones behaviour is making you miserable you are allowing them to waste your life.




    I agree, although if you also get a lot of joy and satisfaction from being together, then it's so hard to say goodbye.

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    As bintherdundat says, there are around 3 billion men out there. You'll never fit all them in in your lifetime, so my advice would be to start working your way though as many as possible girl! Good luck, x.




    Heh, thank you for the encouragement...

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    Thanks for the support, you two... I appreciate it a lot.

    And I do know that life goes on, it just doesn't seem that way right now...

    (I'm 20, by the way.)

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    Well... We had a fight and he broke up with me...

    Now I feel like my life is over, etc...

    Thanks for reading this topic...

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    Again, this is one of those "my boyfriend is so perfect, but not exactly perfect" stories...

    I think my boyfriend is a wonderful person who has very similar interests and views as me and is overall a nice person, and we both love each other deeply... however, since I still have some issues of trust (we've been together for over 7 months), he's not taking it well and instead of being supportive, he has started to say cruel things to me and is overall mean, saying that I have put him through so much pain due to my insecurities, and that's why he's like that with me... But, I think that there are some things you just don't say and do to the person you love. I've been hurt very much too, we've talked about our issues endlessly and it hasn't led to anything constructive, he's just getting nastier. Sometimes I even think, is this really the person I fell in love with? So as time passes, I think of breaking up with him more and more.

    The problem is, I find breaking up practically impossible. How do you break up with a person you love and want to spend your life with? What if I'll regret it later? Heck, I'd regret it even on the moment of breaking up... What's worse, I have never broken up with a guy before, I've only been dumped myself once, which also makes me worry about the same kind of great pain I'll be causing to my boyfriend... Do I really have an issue with letting go or is this like that with everyone?

    Please share your experiences in situations where you really didn't want to leave the person you loved but felt you didn't have a choice. What did you do? Have you ever regretted breaking up?

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    what i've learnt from a similar but much more painfully ended relationship is that the way to avoid confusions is to talk openly about where you and another person stand... always check with the other person, where (s)he is in the relationship. with my current bf, we did that from very early on, we always talk about our relationship when one of us feels theres a need to do that and since we have very similar goals in life, we don't have this issue of one being far ahead from another.

    as for the question about when it becomes a relationsip, its hard to say. even if you're just talking to someone regularly and feeling attraction growing between you, then who is to say it's not a relationship yet? it's the beginning of one.

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    I use both, but I must say I tend to prefer pads.

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