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    what do you have to lose?otherwise in 5 years time you'll look back and say "What if..." and "If only I had have..."Push your boundaries otherwise you'll regret it

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    I don't know if you want to hear this but time does heal a lot of wounds, especially these romance ones.

    Know and understand that there are many other girls out there.

    You only have two options, either try to be together (only you know how realistic this option is, how old you guys are, if you can move out, if she feels the same way back etc etc) but it sounds like you have already worked out that it is probably best if you weren't together. The only other option is to move on. This will allow you to be happy and open, but are you ready to let go of the past?

    Holding onto something that is not there is a waste of time, -everyone says that in retrospect. Don't become someone who says it!

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    If you have reached the conclusion that you two should not be together then you need to respect him by making it made known to him. The longer you lure him along, the more pain will be caused.Delivery of the matter doesn't matter, say it this way, say it like that, say it in a letter, over dinner, at his house, your house, whatever. It's the content. You don't want to be with him anymore, and you need to tell him. Don't beat around the bush by trying to make him not like you.It's not easy, it takes courage. But you owe it to him so he can find out what's really going on and let you BOTH move on to partners that suit you both better and to fall in love with them.

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    Hey manYeah had no internet for a while. Just been re-addressing my life... which was primarily relationship centred

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    People do break up and still hang around with mutual friends and with each other. It depends on the maturity of the people and the reasons why they break up.You shouldn't let your ex dictate your life, if you want to see these mutual friends, then see them. If you bump into him or his fiancée, just treat them like a normal person and say "Hi how are you" and move on. You're there to see your friends, just don't be disrespectful to anyone, that way HOPEFULLY everyone can have a good time

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    I know of times when a guy and girl have rented together and were nothing but friendsBut as the poster said above me, is that what you want, to be just friends?Work out what you want and seize the day

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    Hey Walken, I think the fact that you are here posting this thread shows your uncertainty. When you are with a partner, you want to be sure that you want to be with them everyday and everynight, and can see this as a happy future for all the days on this earth.

    I was talking to my brother last night and he said "You know by the end of the first month of being together, if you can't say 'yes' to spending your life with each other, then it's an automatic 'no.'"
    While he may not be 100% right, I think the principle applies to your situation, as you've known each other for 1 year. You should know now.

    How would you respond if you found out that she was thinking the same thing "I think I can find someone more attractive and is a better partner, maybe Walken isn't the one for me." I'd be very unhappy, and so would she. You should be sure, and proud of your partner.

    The problem is if you are moderately content, comfortable and in a routine of being together, it can be hard to change. It takes courage and guts, but it is well worth it in the end, -I know from experience.

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    that sucks manbut that's life. you just gotta bite the bullet, accept it and move on. i know that seems impossible but in time you will see its very possible.try to get back into some old routines and do some things you never got a chance to do while you two were together. go hang out with your mates and just chill out and have fun with them.

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    believe me, if a guy saw your labia they'll just be thinking "wow, this is so hot, we're gonna have sex" or something.there are lots of threads about this already, take a look http://www.afraidtoask.com/forums/ubbthr...true#Post231781http://www.afraidtoask.com/forums/ubbthr...true#Post225002http://www.afraidtoask.com/forums/ubbthr...=true#Post70753http://www.afraidtoask.com/forums/ubbthr...=true#Post64793http://www.afraidtoask.com/forums/ubbthr...=true#Post47911its normal and guys like itif any of your friends will regard you differently because of your body, -then they are SHALLOW! and you'd be better off without them

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    i take it you mean in terms of obsessing over them?usually it takes a few weeks away from them. get in a routine of being with your mates and keeping yourself busy. you'll meet another potential partner and you'll get all excited and life will be fine.but in terms of still think of them, everyone has a memory and most can remmeber partners from decades ago! but you dont yearn for them, you dont pine for them. i'm over all my past relationships, i occasionally think of them and go "we could never have worked out, o well"

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