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    Daimon_Link

    Thanks for responding. In regards to your post, I don't want sex and only sex. As a matter of fact, I go through a pretty rigid foreplay routine with her. And it isn't my choice to make things stale like that in bed. She pretty much doesn't let me do anything, and if she does, she doesn't let me do them for long and acts like it wasn't good. I've tried numerous things. I used to go down on her all the time but all she ever does is pull my head up and tell me to fuck her. It's like missionary sex is the only enjoyable thing about our intimacy together.

    I'm sure that at some times I'm a bit crabby or things haven't gone right throughout the day but she is consistently like this.

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    Daimon_Link

    I've been with my girlfriend for a little over two years now. I love her to death, but it's so hard communicating with her. She is a very stubborn individual and instead of understanding she tends to snap and get an attitude if I confront her about anything.

    Anyway, our sex life...Sucks. It's not that I don't enjoy sex, or being intimate with her. I just am getting bored, and tired of what she's been doing.

    Our sex life consists of this:

    I start kissing her, she wraps her arms around me, I feel around until I get by her vagina, rub all over, she pulls her clothes off, I get on top. If my arms start to hurt, sometimes I have her flip over doggystyle or lay in spooning position, but she doesn't seem to get any enjoyment out of the latter two, which defeats the whole purpose of me sexing her up.

    I need with my troubled sex life. I can't seem to get her to try any new things. She doesn't like going down on me, doesn't put any effort into turning me on (she doesn't really touch me or my penis, doesn't talk dirty other than occasionally telling me to fuck her, and if I ask directly for these things she gets mad).

    Also, I don't know if it's at all possible I can give her an orgasm. I know I'm not big by any means, but I'm not tiny either. I've tried everything. Going slow is too slow, going fast seems to rev her up but after a few minutes she makes me stop because it hurts. I can't rub her clitoris or its hood because it's too sensitive and it feels like a tickle to her.

    I'm pretty much at a loss with her. I tried rough porn style sex, that's too much. Romantic intimate sex, too slow. A lot of the time I lose my erection because she isn't turning me on. I have to turn myself on by licking down her thighs or rubbing the head of my penis on her vaginal lips. I feel like I can't please her. I feel like I don't know what else to do because I hate doing missionary now. It's a chore. It's boring. My arms start to hurt after having to keep my weight on them for thirty minutes at a time.

    She doesn't seem to understand any of this and when I get tired from being on top too much she thinks I don't want it anymore and gets snotty with me. She thinks when I lose my erection it's because I'm losing interest when the truth is that I AM losing interest because she's not trying.

    I've asked her to be "Creative" in bed with me numerous times, and she just lays there and gets mad because I don't initiate things. I like to be dominant, but I want her to push me over in bed, grab my dick, suck it up and fuck me like no tomorrow. I've even told her this to her face and it still doesn't do anything but agitate her.

    HELP!?!?!

    Summary: I have a very uncooperative girlfriend whom I can't please because going too slow isn't enough, going too fast hurts too much, and no sex position seems to satisfy her aside from missionary.

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    Daimon_Link

    See this is weird though because often times I have a huge problem with her where sometimes she is wetter than wet and other times she is super dry, no matter what I do.

    sigh Women are quite confusing.

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    Daimon_Link

    Well I was just worried because I have been with her for over a year and 7 months now and have never seen secretions seeping out of her to THAT degree. Does that just mean she was highly aroused and I should take it as a good thing?

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    Daimon_Link

    Ladies I need your help on this one (or anyone else knowledgeable here).

    This morning, whilst in the middle of having sex with my girlfriend, I noticed a milky white discharge coming from the bottom of her vagina sticking to the patch of skin between the vagina and anus.

    She didn't notice that it was there until I pointed it out so I am assuming there was no accompanying discomfort or anything.

    I have noticed that my girlfriend has "discharge" when we have sex because usually after I have dried pieces of the stuff on my penis, but this time it was coming from her (to me it looked as if she just somehow spewed semen out of her vagina).

    I just want to know if this is normal at all. I go down on her all the time and her vagina doesn't have any odor or any other signs of "abnormality" but this kind of creeped me out.

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    Daimon_Link

    Originally Posted By: albeitmyself

    you asked how you can prevent having unplanned, unprotected sex while drunk (the next time) and this is the only answer I can give you.

    I wasn't asking how to prevent unplanned sex. I asked what my chances were for pregnancy. And when I say regularly, I mean I've used a condom EVERY SINGLE TIME with the exception of last night. Again, please don't take this as rude, but I have enough stress on me at the moment and it really doesn't help the situation for other people just to think that I was being a douche and not careful. Last night was the one and ONLY time I have ever had unprotected sex. I just wanted to know my chances, and I guess no one can really answer that.

    And as for your comment on how I'd feel if she really were pregnant...I never gave my opinion on that. I just said I'm freaking out and am worrying. That doesn't imply that I'd get mad at her, or drop her, or any of that. To say that would be blasphemy to me. I love my girlfriend. I'm not a child, I really do have feelings for her that go above and beyond anything, but neither me or her really need a child in our lives, considering that we're pretty young.

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    Daimon_Link

    Originally Posted By: sdp

    No one can give you probabilities.. There are people who plan a child and have sex at all the right times and pregnancy doesn't occur. Then there are those who aren't planning it and avoid the riskiest times and it happens.

    Well I guess that's the best solace I'm going to get. :frowning:

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    Daimon_Link

    Not for nothing, but why is everyone making assumptions? I use condoms with her regularly. It just so happened that we both just didn't use one last night. And I don't blame her. Are you freaking kidding me on that? If anything it would be more of my fault than hers.

    All I wanted to know is what the possibilities are here. I love my girlfriend. I'll be supportive of her until the end, but I'm worried even more because we spoke about this before and she isn't exactly all for abortion, and I don't think she or even I would enjoy the idea of adoption either.

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    Daimon_Link

    I had thought that ovulation begins (usually) 14 days after the period. I don't know really, but I'm freaking out hardcore. She can't take the pill or the morning after pill like I said because she has a heart complication, and I don't know what to do...

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    Daimon_Link

    My girlfriend and I were a little inebriated last night, and in the heat of the moment had unprotected sex. I am definitely aware of the possibility of her getting pregnant, but I want to know what are her chances of pregnancy? She has had her period all of last week and it ended this past sunday, so that would mean we had unprotected sex three days (maybe four) after her period.

    I am worried sick right now, because I can't even get her a morning after pill due to her having a heart condition that would be affected by the pill.

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