I wanted to add that we've hung out outside of work just one-on-one and it's always a blast.
Also my questions: Do I say anything or just keep to myself and wait for it to happen? If the answer is to say something, then how should I word it so as not to scare her off?
I've been working with a girl for about 4 years now. I fell for her as soon as I saw her, and that has only grown more as time has passed. At first it didn't seem right to date someone I'm coworkers with. Then I got into a relationship. Then she started dating someone. Though I am out of my relationship she is still in hers.
Now I'm the head manager of where we work. She quit for a bit, and I hired her back. We work together, just she and I, on Mondays. We talk about everything from relationships to family.
She has hinted at the fact that she's interested in me, and has even told me that the guy she been dating is kind of boring.
She always asks if I'm seeing/interested in anyone yet, I'm a shy guy so I really tend not to speak my mind, so I say no, and she says well if there's someone you're interested in you should say something, because you never know.
I've been away last couple months taking a college course, and while I was gone I realized how deep my feelings for her are. I want to say something, and now when I see her the words are on the tip of my tongue to the point where I have to catch myself from saying them.
I don't want to be a home wrecker. I wouldn't want to feel like I'm pressuring her to break-up with her boyfriend. Plus the classic case of "what will happen to us if after all these years I tell her my feelings and we're no longer friends?" It could also mess up our work relationship, and wouldn't want her to, you know, quit because of it.
I could and would wait longer, but it's been overwhelming me. It popped into my mind that maybe saying "I think we should end up together. It could be now, or it could be a couple years from now, but I want to end up with you." because that's all I can think about right now.