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    Welcome to A2A, BrBa17. It looks to me like it could well be a friction burn. If so, it should heal by itself if you leave it alone for a week.

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    @redcat Welcome to A2A, redcat. Thank you for your helpful comments!

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    Thanks for opening out about yourself, faner. I wonder if you might be straight but with a fetish for penises?

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    But does he still hang around with that group?

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    Good advice! You want to invite her to something definite, but small and not threatening, like McDonald's or a movie or just a walk together or watching something together.

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    @boy Welcome to A2A!.

    A wide range is 'normal' at your age, because as well as the usual variations in size between different guys, there is a lot of variation as to how far along guys your age are in puberty. Some guys at 13 are well advanced in puberty, while others have barely started. I'm guessing you are more like the second than the first, which means you have most growth still ahead. But it's psychologically difficult to share your class with a lot of guys who are more advanced in puberty, particularly if they are unpleasant about it. :(

    You can be assured that in saying a big penis is needed, your school contemporaries are very much reflecting their young age. Many of the world's great lovers, such as Casanova, had less than average.

    BTW, although textbooks tend to suggest that there is a fixed set of stages in puberty, with changes coming in a particular order, it isn't so. In different people the changes can happen, not only at different ages, but also in a different order.

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    Am I remembering correctly that this guy reacted badly once before? If so, then keeping quiet would be prudent.

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    @Casio That's a good point too

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    @Casio I think that would mean he would then see you as someone who wants sex with him. He may be repulsed, and the friendship would be over. (This seems likely, if you had to lie to him last time.)

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    @Casio I think everyone may be bi, at the base of their brain--but higher up in the brain, some things are suppressed, more or less effectively. In prisons, and formerly in ships at sea when all sailors were male, normally straight guys become temporarily gay.

    But, as I said, I don't think it is possible to tell at this point whether in a few years' time you will consider yourself bi, or straight.

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    Well, it means you know that it's a fantasy and you will never get with her. That is a lot better than guys who stalk actresses in real life.

    There's a fantasy aspect to most jerking off, isn't there?

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    Welcome, Casio.

    But does jerking off to Carrie Fisher mean you are straight? You evidently have some interests both ways, but this is common and normal, especially at your age, when sexual interests may be more fluid and exploratory.

    I don't think it is possible to predict whether in a few years' time you will consider yourself straight or bisexual. Because of the Carrie Fisher thing, I doubt you will consider yourself exclusively gay.

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    Welcome to A2A, 4862. To show a picture, you have to upload it to a picture sharing site, such as imgur.com That will give you a URL you can quote.

    We prefer that genital pics be given using the link option, rather than the picture option, so people have the choice whether to see it or not.

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    Some places have privacy laws that make it illegal to take pictures of people without permission, in circumstances where they would not expect pictures to be taken. Even without such laws, many people would consider it unethical.

    I don't think you are a creep, just in the throes of a crush.

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    @BrokenDream Thank you for helping here, BrokenDream.

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    Welcome, Pepsi. Crushes are intense, but not deeply-rooted: they go as mysteriously as they come. You seem to suffer from particularly powerful sexual urges, which isn't easy.

    I don't know how much of a choice we have over how we feel, but, as so often with a crush, both of these crushes are with people who are unavailable. You always, no matter how strong the crush, have to resist doing anything really wrong. What you need, I think, is to get to know some girls who are possible real companions. You might find that helps you to stabilise a bit between bouts of uncontrolled horniness and stressful attempts to put the cork back in the bottle.

    I wonder if, if your obsessions ever get to the point where you are afraid of doing something bad, if treating it as a form of OCD might be helpful?

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    Welcome to A2A, BrokenDream!

    Please remember two things:

    1. You know that your uncle's wife is not available to you, but you are sexually attracted nevertheless. That happens a lot, because we do not have a lot of control about whom we are sexually attracted to. But knowing the person is unavailable does make the feeling fade and become bearable in time. Though it is hard to bear now, in time it will be much easier, and in time you will have someone else who will be available to you, and you will forget about your uncle's wife completely.

    2. Don't underestimate people's capacity for forgiveness. We all make mistakes, but we get forgiven them, and the rift is healed. Be able to forgive yourself, too.

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