I hear you!
Thanks for alerting me to the issues going on here. I am in the process of researching the problems and finding a solution.
At a minimum, I plan on updating the server (which really hasn't been updated since 2002), as well as updating the board software. I hope to have some solutions within the next few days - so hang in there.
In terms of finances - a2a is here not to make money, but to provide a place where folks can share their private concerns. Of course, we do need cash to pay the bills - hence the annoying ads which offset the high band-width costs incurred by our popularity. That said, I like some of the other fund-raising ideas, like t-shirts. Perhaps some contest for shirt verbiage and images?
Finally, as a cool time, plus a way to make a little bling for the site, what do you think about an annual a2a get-together? I can't decide if this would be a good idea, or a really bad idea? We could charge some small fee and meet somewhere in the world to hang out for a couple days, maybe get some different folks speaking on interesting topics related to health, sexuality, and life.
Or, will this be a nightmare of personality clashes, attempted hook-ups, and underage drinking resulting in a big mess, or worse.
Your thoughts (while I get the technical issues fixed)...